LOL

long story short, this girl is my room mates ex gf. they're on good terms and hang out every so often. her name is ashley and she came over to our place this past weekend. she usually brings over cute friends.


throughout the night, i would some IOI's from her (and not as much from her cute friend). i usually neg her pretty hard which makes them laugh.


so i go on her myspace commented "haha, chris told me you snored... how cute"

her response: "wow you're gay"

i was hoping to have her as social proof so that her other cute myspace friends will notice me but i'm not sure how i should respond to that gay comment. LOL any ideas?

Sounds like she was just goofing around. That kind of jesting accusation leave you plenty of room for innuendo. Reply with something like "Come sit on my lap and see," or "::Sniffle:: ...Well...yeah......but I've been having these weird feelings lately.....and I think you can be the one to change me lol."

LOL

Thats not really a neg. You said " Chris told me you snore... How cute" She heard "Hey, me and my roomie had a private conversation about you and your sillly sleeping habits and we think its funny. ". Sounded kind of insulting. A neg should be more of a backhanded compliment, not an insult.

Just be happy she didnt say something like "You're gay and I heard you are a premature ejaculator".

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I agree with Goldeneye that does sound like a goof. It is a shit test but I would not recommend saying, "Come sit on my lap and see" or "I've been having these weird feelings lately.....and I think you can be the one to change me lol" as that would convey your interest and remove all intrigue and mystery.

- Chris

See Kay has got it here. There's subtext in what you said and that is what she's responding to.

Doesn't mean you can't just keep going on, people make mistakes and she isn't gonna hold it against you a ton, but you just can't make a big deal out of it and let it affect you. Don't bring it up again, don't try to appologize, or anything, just pretend it never happened and keep going.

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Is she a very confident person?

At least a 9?


If not then why neg her?

There is far too much negging going on when it shouldn't be. It's a tad bothersome that people don't get the simple point behind negging.


I've said it once and I'll say it agian.

DO NOT NEG EVERY GIRL YOU COME ACROSS IT WILL MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE AN ASS.


You only neg in appropriate situations. Other than that think of it as a "In case of emergency break glass" type of deal. Only to be used when necessary.

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I really wish people would stop making rules like that about negging. The point isn't to take people down a peg, but to tease them. If you are trying to lower their opinion of themselves, instead of raising their opinion of your, then you're gonna end up losing their respect. This is why that girl said what she did to him.

Who the hell cares how "good looking" she is?! I think my gf is a 9 to me, but if anyone else asks, I say she's probably an 8, because I'm attracted to her body type and it's also skewed by the connection we have, which makes her more sexy to me. This isn't about how beautiful she is, it's about how she thinks of herself. If she thinks little of herself, then your teases should be directed at yourself more, so that she feels equal to you and that you don't think that you're so magnificent that she isn't worth your time. If she thinks well of herself, then you tease her, but not in order to bring her down, in order to be playful and to create sexual tension, or fun.

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Dont worry about negs.

Next time just say something like "I had fun the other night. We gotta have a party sometime soon!"

The girl will respond more positively and it will be the social proof you are looking for.

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Haha! I love doing stuff like that.

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Nice one hobbit.

so i del her comment.

a few hours later, she commented on one of my pics in a playful manner... i haven't said anything to her nor do i plan to.

i'm assuming she's trying to make up for that gay comment.