I was being present while talking to girls and here's what I felt:
Pressure to say the right thing and fear of making a mistake and loosing her.

So how do I deal with the Inner game part of not being pressured (I even stutter sometime).
2. I don't know how to behave and act with girls
3. I don't know what to say when meeting.

Come you guys please walk me through this. I really want to meet some new people on here.

Speak to and flirt with as many girls as possible. Accept that it doesn't hugely matter whether you fuck the girl at the end of the night.

At the end of the day, being confident is a slow process and there isn't an easy way to speed it up.

make it normal,surround yourself with girls and talk to them,go step by step,no other way

Hey man, we've all been there. Truthfully, it's a process, you'll get less nervous around girls the more reference experiences you get.

There are a couple ways to speed up your progress and build your confidence around girls faster though:

1. Get into momentum: the first set you approach will always be more uncomfortable then the tenth. Don't commit to your first sets, just stay in for a couple minutes to warm up. Keep approaching and eventually you'll get into a state of momentum and your nerves will pretty much vanish.

2. Practice self-acceptance: Trying not to feel nervous is actually quite the conundrum. The more you try not to feel nervous, the more you're resisting nervousness, and whenever we resist an emotion, we get more of it. It's kinda like if you try not to think of a pink elephant, you won't be able to avoid thinking about one. So, the way out of nervousness is counter-intuitive, it's just to accept that you're nervous without trying to fight it. As soon as you stop fighting the nerves, they will dissipate.

To do this, use self talk, "I'm nervous right now, and that's perfectly fine."

You can also vocalize what you're feeling with the girl, "You're totally making me nervous..." Doing that won't necessarily help you get that particular girl but it will help take the weight off your shoulders.

Hope this helped!

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The main reason you're nervous is because you feel (attractive) women are of higher value than you. They aren't. It's part of why Mystery suggested negs and DHV.

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How many approaches have you made so far in your life? When you get an edge from stepping out of your comfort zone repeatedly you will overcome the nerves. If you allow something as simple as nerves and fear(simple emotions that aren't real outside of your own head), you're saying that you clearly don't have what it takes to have the girls you want. Every one deals with fears and nerves, but the people who make it in life are the people that look the fear square in the eyes and do the shit anyway.

Be nervous, stuttter, who cares? Don't know what to say? Talk to them women anyway. Mumble, hum, sing your favorite song. Eventually you will crack the fear and be able to be just as natural around women as you are around your best friend.. Inner game is cool and can be useful but it will never get you to where you want to be fast than you bossing up and taking action.

If you want this, you have to do what it takes to get it. No excuses.

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Guys your responses are genius! I'm sorry for the longer reply. I'm going to implement all the stuff you mentioned. Like you said, there's no excuse for experience.

So, I asked what am I nervous about. I could have made another post but I want to put it here and show you all, I'm listening.

Tons of respect for this group. As there are some experienced people here. My question is: who do you do to be a good conversationalist.

*Example: I open with X, then transition to X, then to pull/end the date I focus on saying X type of things*

A good part of game is, communicating with her. I need help the most there.

Lead a interesting life and do interesting things. When you speak passionately about your life and experiences, others pay attention including women. From there conversations roll of the tounge and you will become more comfortable and direct. Direct conversation means you have no fear and women love it. Importantly you come across as real and not fake.

As Arch and others put it, increase your value as a person.

How do you increase your value in life or do interesting things. Like what kind?

I can paint
I know Philosophy
I know about the arts
But I don’t work or have a job because I’m disabled. The Cali sun helps a bit but that’s still the case. So I don’t have any way of earning money - or don’t know any way to

The stuttering comes from anxiety, the anxiety comes from you placing such a high value on the interaction (like its life or death). Try and learn to enjoy the interaction. Look forward to the rejection or acceptance and know that you will learn something from each attempt. Its all the same shit brother and you will wake up the next morning and live on just as the day before. To open depends on the situation, venue and time of the evening. The important part is that you keep opening and have fun with it. Believe that she is lucky to be talking to you, you have the 8ball.