Hey guys this is Alan. i'm more of a newbie with little success.I have a query, whenever i see 2 or more girls talking together in a group,i really wanna approach them but am unable to due to 2 reasons...i very quickly run outta things to say, Also they seem happy when talking to each other so it feels weird to approach them and disturb them as i feel like i will come across as desperate and needy if i do approach them.whats the solution to that?Please help guys

It's all mind set.

If you feel like you will come across desperate and needy you will because that will be the mental position you will communicate from. People that have successful social interactions do so largely because they believe they have value. They believe they have something to bring to the person they're talking to, or the group they are talking to. And they understand that no one is going to turn down free value. Whether that value be, an ability to make them laugh, something to teach them, a raise in their self esteem, a relationship, business opportunity, great sex or whatever. They approach with the value they believe themselves to be and they project that value forward.

For example:

Just imagine if I gave you a suit case with a million dollars in it and told you to walk around and find someone to give it to. Would you be nervous to walk up to people and open the million dollar suitcase and offering it to them? No you wouldn't, because you have full belief in the value you're offering them. Whether it was one hot girl or 50 hot girls all in one group you would approach without the slightest bit of fear. You would approach fully confident with a slight grin, eager to see their reaction. Now if i gave you a dead rat in a suitcase and told you to find someone to give it to, those nerves would probably return.

You have to become to walking million dollars. Until you recognize your value(who you are, your talents, things your good at, they way you can benefit others), you won't be confident before approaches. You can get your tips here but you have to go out and get your hands dirty. You have to approach while you're afraid and get rejected to progress. If you're truly not afraid to approach then just do it. There shouldn't be a but. Go do 50 approaches and then come back and ask for help. Start helping yourself and then go to others for extra help.

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Beautiful post by EF.