Alright, well long story short, I found this girl who is amazing to hang out with/ talk to / have sex with/ all around awesome person and I really like her. Now, I keep saying things like you should come down (she lives above me) or things like I'm going to the dining hall you should come with me. However it seems she "doesn't have any time". I have tried to make plans for this week and I really want her to sleep over on Thursday night like she has done before however I have a feeling that I am not really in charge anymore and I am no longer the prize. So here is what I did. After a few random texts today, I deleted her number and erased all her texts (kept the number on a piece of paper if I really need it). The problem is that I don't know when to not text so I figured I shouldn't text at all to make her think that I am busy too. Idk, can some one help me figure out how to get this girl to like me more (also we have had sex/kissed/had all nighters talking).

I am at a loss and don't know what to do with her.

It sounds like you got indirectly LJBF'd.

If you found time to hang out with, talk to, have sex with and enjoy her all around awesomeness but she won't go anywhere with you, it sounds like you have been going out of your way to accommodate her. No girl "doesn't have time". When a girl likes a guy she makes time. I would say not to text her again - from what you said it sounds like that would only convey your interest and lower your value.

You need to take back your alpha status with her. You need to show her that you live your life first and she is just a part of it. You need to be willing to walk away if she is only expecting you to accommodate or tag along with her. Hot girls are used to being in control of men. They know they're attractive and even if they are sweet as pie on the outside they will know exactly what they are doing and how to pull the right strings (with AFCs).

If you can pull it off (depending on the situation) play the jealousy card. If you had a connection which she has cut off and she sees you with another girl she will want you back (but only if she still has sexual interest).

since shes loves above you, my opinion would be to get a couple of girls with you and make sure she sees/hears you but dont make it a party. just make her feels like you are wanted by others and that she was nothing except a one night or something like that

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"Never be afraid to try something new. Always remember: Amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic"

Yeah, thats what I think I did. I acutally think I am just going to tell her straight up I don't want her anymore. Even though it is a lie, I am fine with completely losing her for ever.

Prob say something along the lines of

Hey, I'm sorry, I tricked my self I don't want you to change youre
a great girl, but maybe we should just be friends. I just don't want to believe that you're something you're not.

Dont come out and say you dont want her...her feelings of rejection may overcome anything else for you, last thing you need is a pissed off lady neighbor you used to sleep with when your trying to get it on with another girl!

play it cool, see her in the hall:

hey! how are you? listen i gotta run, call me later. Bye!

keep it short and sweet, act like you have better things to do. Take the advice and be seen with other girls. The first time she wants to hang out tell her you would love to but you have a date. maybe next time and leave.

let her come to you, dont be predicatable anymore, she will wonder why you dont send messages or ask her to hang out.

~ Mystic

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

The other night, I asked her to watch a movie (se7en) thursday night after we get back from this open mic night to which she said probabally. I don't think I am LJBF'd yet however I feel like it will happen soon if I don't do something.

you want to know how girls spell the word "no"?

M.A.Y.B.E which fits with probably

the word probably just means she has options, and at any time can bail on you because she never gave a direct answer. If a girl tells me probably or maybe. i plan something different with someone different...you have options too remember?

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

Yeah acutally I said almost exactly this

Girl: Probabally
Me: PROBABALLY!, looks like I should plan something else. (then I turned and walked away).
Girl: It's a probabally....

yea but that might have looked a bit assholish just walking off.

each statement you make should seem like your a prize. not a jerk per say.

Probably? haha thats cute! call me when your not indecisive! (with a smile and funny tone)

or get her to say yes, never take no for an answer. act like you dont hear the maybe, no or probably.

Her: Probably!
You: so your place or mine
Her: im not sure yet
You: what time did you say for me to come over?

if you do this in a teasing way she eventually will say a direct answer, at least in my experiance.

be playful but dont get upset, control your emotions...you have options and can do better then her at any time. your giving her a one and a lifetime chance at you. use that mentality.

~ Mystic

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

Hey, if we hang out on thursday night should I kiss her or not and as soon as the movie is over escort her out and be like, I have a big test in the morning maybe I'll see you tomorrow.

Half of me wants to do soemthing like if she goes for the kiss or if I go, stop it mid way and turn my cheek. Then be like I think I'm out,

Me: I have had enough of your mind games
Her: I'm not playing mind games
Me: Ohh? From what I gather you are leading on quite a few guys. But I can't blame you and I'm not going to be hypocritical, because I do it to sometimes, but right now i'm looking for something different. So I am going to do you a favor and remove one of the choices.
Her: oausdfansodufhasodufhaosdfhaosdhf
Me: well we can just be fuck buddies if you want, i'm fine with that but just know I will be out with other people too.

I really like her the problem is I don't like how she is playing a few guys (I think it is liek 2-3, I pretty much stopped another 2 becuase well that is what I do but one lives near her house, and the other I don't know of) idk I'm kinda fed up with the entire situation.

you walk off, saying you are removing a choice and ya look like a chump, no offense. You call her out on her bullshit you make is appear you are try hard. just be cool!

from what i can tell is you are starting to get hooked on this girl, your getting frustrated because your not getting the desired result. The problem is you are going into this situation not with a dont give a shit attitude, you are walking into it wanting something from it.

Who cares what happens? you can find another girl in no time.

If you play your cards right, you wont have to worry about the other guys, you will be all she needs.

its now all up to you, but personally i would not stop with just a kiss...i have a beautiful girl on my couch in my apartment with the lights off and all alone! fuck the other dudes, put it to her if anything you get a fuck friend.

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

fair enough. Then I will do that.