Hello,
Today I approached a girl for the first time and this gir I had couple eye contact with so I said to myself that I should go for it. Now since this is my first time it was hard to get myself to do it but I did and when I went to her to talk and sat next to her I got on the wrong foot since I wanted to do the following :
-Handshake to make a physical connection and introduce myself and sit next to her
-talk about couiple things ill go over details later on
-see how the convo goes and either go for facebook if is good convo and if it is a great one then phone number.
What really happened is she was on her phone when I got there so I sat and then I told her the following :
-We (my friend and I) missed you out there you did not come to smoke today (she always smoked on breaks)
she told me she kind feeling sick and not in the mood
-talked about her tattoo and told her I am thinking of getting one and I hope I will not regret it later
-talked about a car accident she had couple days ago.
-asked her about her age and what does she do
-asked her if she knows my name at first she said no then I asked again do you really not know? she said my name and I told her correct ( I was the confident guy who speaks loud and makes jokes and the teacher there said my name a lot of times ) so I assume she knew but was shy to say she knew.
now after this convo which lasted about 10 mins I backed down from asking her for her facebook or phone number because of what I noticed.
negative things I noticed :
-the physical connection failed so I tried somehow to force but not really show I am forcing it I touched her arm during the time I was talking for the first time then after few mins to get a solid connectiong I touched again and she said she would prefer if i did not touch her she does not like to be touched by anyone (which is most likely a bullshi since I can understand she is not really feeling at ease)
-her legs (we were sitting) they her legs were crossed and the upper leg was towards the other side and the leg below was straight ahead so her legs were not towards me and she corssed her arms
-there was 2 times an awkward silence for like 3-4 seconds and then I went on with a new topic
postive things I notcied
-she rested her phone beside her and was really eye contacting me most of the time and felt like there was this sparkly (gringy I know) in her eyes but felt it was a postive sign
-she laughed more than once at least 5-7 times during this 10 min talk
-I knew more things about her than she knew about me ( was trying to make her sell herself to me than me selling myself to her )
-at the end when I thought there is not enough comfort from her I went on without asking for facebook or number just to show her that I am not that needy but was just having a fun convo (break the ice).
my body language
-was relaxed had my legs crossed not her way but my face was facing her and my eye as well as torso sometimes I would just talk and look and sit striaght but then again towards her
-eye contact most of the time
-used my hands a lot 2 times touch her as mentioned above which was a mistake but showing friendly approach and physicall connection and was just using my hands as a means of explaining.
I have had great success with texting games with girls and got a lot of them (PUA Style) but real life approach is new to me and I wanted to ask based on the above and few info below do you think I should go for it?
she was with me for a 3 day course and this was the last day of it and my first approach so I will not be seeing her for now but I do know here instagram and her facebook account after a search I did.
she is 26 I am 22 also when I talked I was talking in a clear voice not shaky at all but felt I could have done more
so do you think I should try and send her a message on facebook or instagram? or is this wasted chance based on the above info?
thanks for reading
CHAT
