Hey guys,
Basically I got started on for no reason on the weekend. A typical alpha looking guy, about 6'4" and quite muscular. The guy basically was trying to provoke me to hit him and i just turned and walked away, and as i turned he pushed me in the back of my head. Still i just left it.

Now I'm not saying that i was afraid to hit him, i have actually done boxing for 5 years and had numerous contests. But i feel that girls don't like aggressive behaviour or fighting and i wanted to pull that night.

i have heard that Alpha males are usually aggressive and i just wanna know if it is an attractive trait and if so why?

They do, as it's a sign of protecting yourself and that means you are able to protect them, plus a sign of confidence. However starting fights is different.

So as long as aggressive behaviour is in self defence of myself or her its okay, but any other reason is pretty much bad?

Pretty much. Some women do like to be with violent men, but would you really want a woman like that?

no i certainly would not haha! thanks for your help

Doesn't really matter. No point in fighting losers at bars or whatever. You'll just get sent to jail and get a criminal record and screw up your future employability. Besides, you can be aggressive and manly without provoking physical altercations. Dudes that go around doing that stuff were probably abused as boys and are just acting out. They think the more hyper masculine and macho they act in front of women it will get them more women. But I can assure you this forum is filled with guys who don't get into any fights or intimidate other men and they get laid all the time.

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you did the right thing by walking away. Sane women don't like cockfights. We live in a fucking civilized society and people aren't allowed to physically assault you. If I'm at a bar and someone shoves me I'm getting security's attention about it. If a guy is in my face I will tell him he is being rude and needs to stop. The idea that your only option to any provocation is to start swinging is immature and will get your ass kicked. You can stand up for yourself without starting barfights.

Then again, I can't remember the last time anybody messed with me like that. Maybe you need to go somewhere with fewer trashy people.

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Well I'm glad i made the right decision in walking away. The last thing I want is to get a criminal record, plus if I get banned from that club i'd have to travel a good 10 miles to get to the next decent place.

I did actually tell security what he'd done, and they followed me around the club until we found him and they kicked him out! Funny thing was as we found him he was starting on another lad half his size.

I guess the only suitable reason to ever turn aggressive / violent in a club is when there is literally no other option. Say for instance your boxed in a corner or something and security cant see you. Any other situation where I am able to walk away then I should walk away and tell security.

thanks for your help guys

In bed.

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There is no Absolute on what an Alpha is..

An Alpha in layman's terms is just a guy that moves to the beat of his own drum, makes his own rules, and doesn't put too much weight or thought into what anyone thinks. An alpha can be quiet, aggressive, passive, or whatever. He's comfortable with himself, but the thing the alpha is least likely to do is run to an internet forum to ask whether or not he's an Alpha or less of a man because he didn't respond in the way others would've liked. He simply just doesn't care or think about it.

Girls like confidence, whether thats confidently aggressive, or confidently mysterious, it doesn't matter. Its not what you do, its how you do it. And how you do it is completely a reflection of who you are. Sounds to me like you just need to let go of some of your comforts and take more risk. This forum is the perfect place to start. How many women have you approached so far roughly? I hope several, since thats what the forum is all about.

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Except the forum also exists to help men, and here you are criticizing someone asking for help. Fuck you.

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Lol... If anything, that was midly condescending... did you at least get the point of what he was saying while taking offense?

It's a pretty good question, but any seasoned guy knows that physical violence/being aggressive in the wrong context is stupid/pointless esp when it comes to women.
The only time aggression towards someone else is ok is pretty much when a woman has made it clear she wants your dick inside her.

I get his point but I didn't run to a forum to ask if I'm less of a man because of my reaction. I simple wanted to know if aggression was a desirable trait for a man to show during a situation where another man or AMOG is in your face wanting to fight you.

I'd prefer to be cool and calm in another situation and react in the same way I did. By simple walking away and telling security. I now know that reacting aggressively and violently is pointless and will just ruin my chances with women.

As for how many girls I'v approached.... far ..far more than 7.

But thanks for your help guys i do appreciate that i can come on here and have a discussion.

I am sorry but if he puts hands on you, you knock his ass out. Next time if he tries to start jawing away his mouth you can keep your cool calm and collected. What really fucks them up is when you have a deadpan stare. You look at them in the eyes and don't react. You just watch them melt away. Honestly you could just walk away, but if a man puts hands on you, you do something. If he is egging you on without putting hands, then you can do what I have prescribed. I've been in a few situations. Sometimes I reacted, and sometimes I didn't. All I know is that they usually don't bother me after.

Then again, I grew up in The Bronx and I mastered the "I wish a nigga would" stare. Good luck man.

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I don't agree with this. That is what angry black women tell there kids. "Don't ever let nobody put there hands on you. If they start it you finish it!"

That's how people end up fighting all the time and getting criminal records. The law doesn't care who touched who first. They just want to arrest whoever is fighting inside the bar. That's how the real world works. Nobody cares about your pride.

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