| I really need some help.
I've been dating this girl for about a month now, she's batshit crazy, and it took me too long to spot it.
When I met her, she was staying with her mom because she lost a really good job (which I later found out was due to her disorder) and couldn't afford her rent anymore. Understandable at first, shit happens.
So about a week after knowing her (we've already had sex), I'm at her house with my cousin and her friend trying to set up a double type of thing. I bring a 12 pack of beer, she's making food, even her older brother and his wife joined us; everything is going smooth. Out of nowhere her mother comes downstairs and starts raging about all of the activity. I understand, it's her house, and it was around midnight. I'd be pissed too if I didn't know about it.
She gets into a screaming match with her mother, and throws a glass on the ground. This is the first time I've seen this side of her. Me and my cousin conclude that this is family business, so we get up, grab the remaining beers and walk out the door. She screams, "If they have to leave, I'm leaving with them!"
Fuck.
We needed to give her friend a ride home so there was no way to pull off immediately. She bring a full suitcase outside and puts it in my backseat. I didn't think too much of it. Figured she had somewhere else to go. Not the case. The next day I asked her about her stuff and where she's gonna go, she tells me that she has nowhere to go. I had to go to work, and she STAYED IN MY CAR, THE ENTIRE SHIFT (I took the keys of course).
She did this multiple times before I finally told her that she had to find somewhere to go because she's interrupting the flow of my life. I can't do anything with her living in my car. She then exclaims that I used her for sex and now that I got what I wanted, I'm just going to leave like everybody else. Etc. etc. I told her that if she uses sex against me, I won't have sex with her anymore because it's supposed to be mutual. She agreed that it was mutual. But at this point, I still want to bail, I just don't know how. I could dump all of her stuff and run, but then she could say that I stole her stuff.
Somehow her mother got my phone number and sends me a paragraph long text telling me how unhealthy her daughter is and to please not abandon her bcuz that could be detrimental, etc. etc. it's like they're all in this together. I caught the flu and her mom offered to give me meds. Sent me "good morning. Hope you're feeling better" texts, etc.
The girl is selfish. Any time I need to do something apart from her (something as routine as going to work, or something as important as making it to my sisters birthday dinner), it turns into this huge fight on her side and she just can't understand why I won't bring her around my family. The one time she felt like I was leaving her, and I told her I don't want anything to do with her, she threatened suicide. I've had to kick her out of my car in random parking lots multiple times because of her behavior. Other times she's just fine.
Am I in too deep? Is there any way to cut contact with this girl that won't result in stress or backlash?
I just imagine her and her mom blowing up my phone telling me how much of a POS I am. Possible rape accusation (not worried bcuz I have texts stating it was mutual). Possible theft accusation. Possible suicide.
This all happened so fast and I really don't know what to do at this point. I feel bad for the girl, which is why I'm still around, but I know I need to leave bcuz it's not healthy for me. I know that either way this goes, I'll be painted as the bad guy, but I hold on to a false hope of her and her mother being understanding of my decision. Lol just don't want to face the backlash to be honest.
What would you do in this situation?
TLDR;
Started dating sweet girl. Met her family by accident. She left her moms house after an argument and put her stuff in my car thinking she had somewhere else to go; she didn't. She's been living in my car basically. Her mom has my phone number and texts me most mornings asking about her daughter and was concerned about my illness (flu). Mother also said it will be tough but pleaded with me not to abandon her daughter. I tried, and it turned into me dropping her off in a parking lot because she refused to go home, she stayed there all day, peed on herself, and texted me threatening suicide to make me feel bad about it.
How do I get rid of her?
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