So I'm a 20 year old guy with good build and up and coming PUA after this party I met "Jackie" at. She was very bold (maybe it was alcohol) and grabbed me by the hand pulled me in and kissed me on the cheek. She was with a friend who was trying to get with her and decided to make things interesting i guess. We talked the next morning and let me break the touch barrier some more by cuddling on the couch. When our friend came in he decided to end it by taking her back home 2 hours away.

She goes to college about 1 hour away from mine and we talked back and forth through e-mails for about 5 months. After seeing eachother 2 or 3 times, last weekend she turned 21 and let me sleep in the same bed. I massaged her back til she fell asleep. Next morning, I really wanted to kiss her but we hugged twice.

That's when I biffed it and called her the next night inquiring as to her feelings and saying I had some for her. We both said a long-distance relationship would not work and she said she'd call me back. She didn't.

I waited a week (standard?) then e-mailed her saying I was just excited by her and hadn't meant everything I said entirely and threw in some sweet nothings. I said I wanted to get to know her more and proposed hanging out if she wants to. No reply yet.

Bottom line, I think I scared her away and I think she just wants to play the field. More likely, I think I made myself too easy and she lost interest. (Terrible PUA move I know) I put the ball in her court and she put me in the dog house.

What are some good ways to bring back her interest? How should the next contact go? How should I play it?

Yeah it's kinda long, thanks for reading, but I'd like to hear different opinions. Thanks again guys (and girls).

Doesnt look good my man if i were u id drop it and maybe ull see her out again or something, now if u keep talking ur going to sound needy. dont bother with her theres plenty more game out there to be worrying about the one.

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Ha thanks for the quick response. I thought I screwed myself and just needed confirmation. But anybody with ideas spit 'em at me.

i'm no expert but you may get something out of this...

prob is she doesn't see you around regurly, otherwise hanging around with other friends and see you with other girls may change her thinking as it could seem as you're done with chasing her and moved on. make yourself unavaliable and as the saying goes 'always want what you can;t get' i dunno if you can pass this look on with the distance or not?

also you could go over to where she lives randomly and drop the message that your over there (make some excuse) and would be good to get together for 20mins or something for a coffee - and so keeping it casual and a small time constraint (shows your busy and all you want to do is meet her for a short while nothing more, and so less threatening?)

just some thoughts i've "spat out"

You should drop her- you've damaged the interaction, and I don't see the benefits of the uphill battle it will take to get things back on track. So, I would let it go.

Now, if you don't mind some constructive criticism, let me give you a critique:

1) She escalated kino high enough to kiss you on the cheek, and you let that go to waste. Cuddling on the couch is a great time for a real K-close, or at least a shot at K-closing.

2) You told her you had feelings for her without having her opinion first. When you tell a chick something like that, it should only be AFTER she tells you the same thing first. You turned her off by bringing emotions into the relationship before she was ready.

3) You emailed her about it a second time, and gave her a needy impression of you. Your email was an attempt to qulify yourself to her. If you had let your first email die, and ignored the things you said, it would have gone better.

4) You're still hung up on your next contact with her. She knows you are interested, so there's nothing more to say to her- unless she talks first. Even so, the best thing to do is to move on to another chick. It will improve your frame at this point, and if the first girl is interested, it will convey a LACK of neediness on your part.

Basically, move on quickly, and you'll find yourself in a much better position.

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DROP HER, just sounds so needy. DLV

if you want to pursue her, then **remember this**

if you do see her again, BRING A GIRL WITH YOU

id give more advice, but personally, i think you should just drop her, main reason being, you do not want this neediness to become a habit.

Xx-Charisma-xX

Hey, I just wanted to update those who care the slightest bit that I dodged a phone call with her intentionally and called her back much later saying I was helping out a girl from my highschool by driving her to fix her car and we were grabbin a bite to eat. I also opened the door with her by saying I'd be in town in a week or two. She said to let her know when I got there. I think I'll take the advice and say that we should get coffee or something like one of the good suggestions said to. I knew what I had to do, but I like other ideas and approaches and it's all workin out well.

Now my next thought: do I play arrogant confident "you can't stay away from me" dude, or disinterested wishy-washy, "i don't think i need you" approach. Maybe a combination of some kind? This is where the close lies!

Neither. Be the the guy that gives her the impression, "I acted goofy towards you, but I'm not going to waste time on you unless you are going to pursue me."

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