Hello,

I am working in a gym. Literally one of the best places to met nice new girls and to talk with them. Im a very sociable person at work and love to talk with all types of people. Lately when I decide to talk with a girl, I remark that other guys trying to ruin this. Few situations what happens past month:

- First situation. I am talking in the middle of the gym with a beautiful girl one on one and other guy comes in that I know for a longer period, alpha type of guy. He breaks my conversation and using strong body language in his favour to gain terrirtory and introduces him self to the girl. It was pretty Obvious he was interested in her just like me. I was pretty shocked at that moment and gave him the lead by let him tell shit about his self and she responded on that.

Im pretty sure you guys have experienced this situations before and you know how I feel right there. Feels pretty bad and hurts. So what should I do over there guys, this guy is either very alpha so please stay aware of that in your response

- Second situation. Im again flirting with a girl and an other alpha guy ( fucking gyms, so much alphas lol ) says out of the blue: You know that this guy ( me ) is talking with every woman over here to the girl. She responded: Oh really?
Me: Yea, im even flirting with some grandma's over here. She: laughs. Then I lead here by taking here hand and said we would be great dance partners. Turn here around, now here back is to the hater/alpha guy, So her point of view is fully focused on me again.

I think the second one I handled pretty well. Just curious what you all do in situations like this or even when this shit happens in nightclubs. Need some basic tips, that you can use in general.

Greets,

Chris

You reacted well in the second occasion. You can't let yourself get shaken or agitated when some dude decides to be a punk.

If it is constantly happening, I'd consider gaming elsewhere. If I frequented a bar with guys getting in my space all the time, I'd stop frequenting that bar. Obviously you are there to make some money, so that's not quite the same situation. In order of importance:

1. If a guy interrupts you, ask the girl how they know eachother. It puts some pressure on him when she says she has never met the guy, or if they do know eachother you remain in the conversation and just asked a polite question.

2. If the guy is being an asshole, you get her attention with something like "hey I just realized I wanted to ask you something" and when she asks what you mean you move and reposition so that she is facing away from him.

3. If the gets legit annoying and aggressive, tell him he's being rude, and to wait a moment until you have finished what you are saying. We live in civilization not a jungle, there are certain rules of etiquette for social interaction.

After all these is when I'd say it is time to be read to fight, but in your case it would be smarter to not risk your job, just tell the girl you wanted to tell her something have to finish some work-related task, then go do something for a few minutes and find her later. Outside of work though, shit after those first three you either find a cop/security guard for where you are at or you look for the closest weapon and get ready to roll. That being said I've never actually even reached that point, by the time you clearly make the statement that a guy is being foolish even his friends wont' back him up. The trick is to express your being agitated WITHOUT cursing, insulting, yelling or threatening. That is how a situation escalates when your goal is the opposite.

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Just remain cool. I have been running into these kinds of dudes lately. Just ignore them when you can. If anyone ever calls you out for talking to girls, own up to it. It's not a bad thing, who cares. You're a ladies man, be a ladies man. She will get curious and he will look like he was actually winging you. Win-win.


If a guy tries to takeover a conversation, just interrupt him and say you have to get back to work. This will create a little awkward interaction between them. She might say herself that she has to get back to working out. Either way keep your cool. You don't have to win every battle since you work there. You will have plenty of chances to talk to these people again.

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Thanks for the responses guys. Definitely helpfull.