hi guys
remember that latina milf who works at my client's office, the one that I like a lot?

I dont know if I am flirting wrong or if she is just really dense, but she doesn't get it. I have tried so hard to drop some hints but she just doesn't get it. I have done some tests on her and she doesn't know that I am interested in her.

I will give you some examples: she asked me where I am going the weekend, I said "a birthday party, how about you?" she said she is also going to a birthday party. I said "are you trying to copy me? you cant copy me." then after a while something about something else came up and I said "there you go, copying me again"
that's flirting, isn't it?

another time she ordered someone to do something and I said "I love bossy women" she thought I am criticizing her and said "it's my job to order her, she works under me" I really meant I love bossy women, I wasn't being sarcastic.

maybe my vibe is off. but I dont know what else to do. sometimes I wanna tell her "take a hint already, dammit woman" how can I build sexual tension?

also, her phone screen was broken and I said "you threw it at your boyfriend?" she said "I dont have a boyfriend" I said "why not?" I feel like she got upset, I regret saying that. is this a big deal?

Dude......... lol I want to shake you

Is there a reason you didn't ask her out?

Bart's a hinter and he confuses that with flirting. He wants to hint around until the girl makes a move on him. That way he can get a girl without risking rejection. It's a perfect win-win strategy. Well, with the exception of women usually not responding to hints.

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She kind of asked me out...kind of. ok not really.

so she was saying she is invited to this party saturday night. I said "you're not taking me?"
she said "you wanna come as my date? I dont have a date"
I said "what kind of party?"
she said it's at a "roof top" whatever that means. she said "you have to dress up, it's all rich and high class people"
I said "I dont like rich people, so no. and that sounds boring"
she said "not when you're with me. it's gonna be fun, and spontaneous"
she said "last time i told you to come to the club with me you declined, now you're declining again. I have a lot of fun friends"

if you're reading this thinking she is interested in me, she is not. I have tested her, I am 100% sure she doesn't know I like her and she doesn't see me that way...I dont know why, maybe it's hard for her to imagine a guy 10 years younger than her would be interested in her?

edit: ok, to answer your question. the reason is I want to build some sexual tension first, you cant just go up to someone and ask them out, women hate surprises like that. in my opinion, before asking a girl out, it has to make sense that "this guy might ask me out", she has to see the writing on the wall, you know? I dont want to do this without any background (background = some sexual tension)

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The problem:

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I'm thinking I'm not as bad at this stuff as I thought... so thanks for making me feel better.

I mean, if a girl I like invites me to a party and says it'll be fun because of her... maybe take her up on the offer and see what happens.

I am glad I am making you feel better about yourself.

I can assure you I have a very good reason for not going. there is a lot of politics involved because some people that i know are gonna be there.

Look, quite literally what you told this woman is that her company is too boring for you. You couldn't go because of these other guys? Fine, tell her you can't go... not that it's boring because that means you think it's boring to spend time with her.

I don't know if she's into you or not, but if that's the way you act (and she claimed you've turned her down for other things too) I'm willing to bet she thinks you're not into her.

Bart, read this again:

Listen you are not showing intent what so ever. There are always risky sets when your spinning game at your workplace but she has showed you countless ioi's, seems that you play it WAY TOO SAFE! just go to the party and if not that drops those balls and run this,

You: so are you ready for our super romantic date tonight? (Humor)
Her: our date? I wasn't aware..
You: oh ya!
You: I'm going to take you to Burger King, you can be my chicken finger princess.
Her: hahaha your a goofball
You: if you play your cards right, I may even get you the crown so you'll be a real princess!

*make her chase you, you've already set the frame that your cool/she's boring.
*never say that dumbass line ever again about "rich people and not liking them", first that's ignorant but more importantly, that shows you judge people and when you get into bed, she will remember you judge and it will bring up some LMR... good luck brother!

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you're saying I should stop giving hints. Then how do I create sexual tension? I believe in a sensitive scenario like this (coworkers or boss/employee or client's assistant/me) where you are risking your job, things have to build naturally.

I just don't want to create a situation where the girl says "I am sorry if I gave you the wrong impression, but nothing can ever happen between us" and that would make me look like a prick. I have been there once and it's embarrassing. worse, she might tell the boss "this guy harassed me"

I think the right way to do this is to build this slowly. let it build naturally. kind of like kino, you dont go fingering the girl as soon as you meet her. first you accidentally touch her hand with yours. then you touch her hair because she has something in her hair. then you sit next to her and your thighs touch. then you hug her.

I may be wrong but in my opinion, my biggest problem is that she can't imagine a guy 10 years younger than her being interested in her. that's why she doesn't get it when I give all those hints. if I could solve that, the rest would follow naturally.

at this point what do I do? how do I take this from here to sex? Please no "flirt with her" answers...I cant do it and it comes off unnatural so it's pointless.