I did try searching so sorry if this has come up before

I was recently seeing 3-4 girls and 1 liked more than the others. We would go back to hers and Netflix & Chill but I enjoyed talking to her as well. We're both very career minded and I enjoyed having someone to talk to work about. However, although I think she is fairly attractive she isn't hot, and that is what I'm striving for. I have gone out with better looking girls who I don't have anything in common with.

Anyway, I told her I was seeing other girls and she was disappointed but thankful for my honesty. However she doesn't want to see me as she was developing feelings which is fair enough...

Anyway, when do you decide to settle down? I can't help but wonder if I'm just getting greedy, trying to see several girls at once because it feels great. Do I hold out/work towards a closer to perfection girl (similar interests and looks fantastic) or take this girl and be happy now? I don't often find girls I get along with this well but there are lots of better looking girls out there

Thanks as always

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My opinion is that if you're into game. You are into living a players lifestyle. This means that you make the effort to meet and seduce many attractive women. Without the intent at all of settling down. Once you settle down and choose to go monogamous, for me, you are no longer in the game...

So what you're really asking is should you try it with this one girl, get rid of the others and take yourself out of the game.

Hellll Nawhhhh.

You take a girlfriend whenever you feel you are ready for that type of commitment. When you become boyfriend/girlfriend it's pretty expected you are exclusive, so if you choose to do that it's messed up to continue playing the field and talking with other women.

Seems to me like you're not ready for that. The younger you are and the more skilled you are with women, the less likely you are to want to have a 'girlfriend.' It's great to have a girl you see primarily but no matter what you need other people in your life.

Let her bring up the girlfriend shit.

Well... depends on you and your thoughts.

Looks are arbitrary, your attraction to them isn't. If she turns you on, is sexy, and isn't as Hot as some girls but she is hot to you that's all that matters.

Put your ego in check.

That said... if you are asking us that's a stupid question. It's up to you whether you want a girlfriend. How can a bunch of internet strangers help you with such a thing?

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Thanks for the responses, guys

Some slightly different answers but I think you are right in that

1. if she's hot to me, she's hot to me (ego thing)
2. I'm not ready to settle down

So I will continue meeting new women. The reason I didn't let her bring it up is because I felt unethical. I felt like with how it was going (messaging throughout the day, jokingly that ended up being less jokey calling each other bae, etc) it was implied that we were seeing each other seriously. I don't want to mislead women on a technicality (oh well you never asked) so I'm gonna make a point of getting it across early on if it's not already obvious I want to see her casually

Thanks again

A have a friend who I think said it best:

"Either the girl is a "hell yes" or a no. There is no in between"

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