So I am a part of a new salsa group it has like 200 people probably more now everytime (2 times a week ) we have a party in a differetn club and usually the same people come.. there is one girl there that I really like her look I just chit chated with her once while dancing and that's all but I want to try and pick her up for something serious or not I dont really care.
The problem is that it has to be very indirect because if not done right it can burn me .

Why would you get burned for expressing attraction?

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Why are men so afraid of their own sexuality? seriously now.

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There is a lot of gossip in this scene after I try my luck with 2 girls the third one will probably know and know I am a " player " that jumps from a girl to girl that something that burns you.

I have slept or attempted to kiss with 90% of girls in my social circle. Not one of them ever held it against me. They actually liked the honesty and they all are cool with me. Your assumptions are false.

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That's not good for reputation tho, it basically says you have no standards

To op, just invite them for something casual? "I need to go shopping tomorrow, wanna come with me?"

It's not hard,doesn't give away too much interest and yada yada yada.

If you're going to play it cool and well, even if she's not into you she's for sure not going to say anything but good things about you.

So chill man.

That's not good for reputation tho, it basically says you have no standards

"I need to go shopping tomorrow, wanna come with me?"



i"m a fag,let"s go shopping

I see this type of advice all of the time. When you guys give it, explain how you go from a friendly shopping trip to a date? I'm not saying it's not a doable thing...but when you do this the way you've described it you set up a friendship expectation. If she expects a friendship, you'll be hard pressed to turn it into more than that.

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Sure play it 'safe' and set the gay friend/asexual friend frame. Let us know how that works for you.

Sure. God forbid you express interest. No no. Fighting uphill battles is the way to go.

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Is it really no standards if they are all cute girls ? Lol. Lets not forget when new girls are added, they get the jist of who I am so it makes new women easier to seduce or at least be sexually expressive towards. Herd mentality for the win.

Your advice is geared toward nice guys. Not my cup of tea.

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Agreed.

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Works fine for me. It's actually not what I do (I mostly invite them to something active like museums/expos (we have food expos in Rome-Italy like every other week..)) but I did it a couple of times and it worked as well. I mean, you know malls have cafeterias, and you generally move from a place to another, you're not tied to the mall. Plus, again, I live in Rome, going downtown for shopping means going through beautiful places/parks/churches, ruins, ecc, and is very romantic

Don't fuckin act like you're not gonna enter her pants just because the excuse you've chosen to meet wasn't epic. It actually matters very little where you go. abc of pickup is about them having fun, them having comfort (with you) and then escalating. A mall is good for this and gives countless opportunities to do something emotional, much more than lame cafeterias or wine bars.
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Did you even read op?? He said that there's like 100+ women in this salsa circle and he doesn't want to be considered a player. Or, to say it differently, he doesn't want to invite for a date 1/2 women, get rejected and then everybody in this circle will know that he's a loser without standards inviting every girl out.

So his best chance is to isolate a target with something that looks as little tryhard as possible and then escalate. You don't need fuckin shopping, just an excuse for something YOU do, and where she's company for the activity you've choose.