So, I've had this a few times where a girl is unsure about what she wants. For example asking a girl out and she's not sure if she wants to or not, or having been out with a girl, whether she wants to continue.

Im just not sure how to respond to her indecision. Should I encourage her to keep seeing me, so I have more of an opportunity to display what a great guy I am? Or should I blow her off because she's not sure. Perhaps I shouldn't be wasting my time with a girl who isn't 100% sure she wants to see me when there are plenty of others out the who would be.

I think each approach has elements that are both alpha and beta. Just curious on everyone's thoughts. Thanks

You're thirsty. Stop looking to women for the answers, and beyond that, validation. This, in all likelihood is your problem.

Don't waste time on uninterested women.

I understand if a girl is generally uninterested then yeah, you should move on. But I think it's also a bit of a bitch move to just give up on something as soon as you hit the slightest snag. Just like with lmr, if you gave up on the girl then, got up, left and never talked to her again, I think most of us would be getting laid a lot less. I have other options, just trying to improve my odds as best I can.

You're needy and undecided. They feel it and answer accordingly even if it seems they had some slight interest.

"I'm not sure" can mean a slew of different things, but you have to be able to read the situation correctly. Sometimes there are personal reasons she's hesitant, sometimes it's a soft rejection, and sometimes it's a need for reassurance.

Your situation, it seems like you are doing things wrong if this keeps happening to you in where it becomes a sticking point. Next time this happens, ask why she isn't sure. If it's personal reasons, then let her go and get her stuff taken care of and tell her to call you when it's done. If it's a need for reassurance...reassure her. If it's a soft rejection...let it go.

The last thing you want to do is try to convince someone to go out with you after they hinted that it's more than likely a "no".

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You pull back and game other women.

This woman is "on the fence". Indifference will pull her toward you, neediness will repel her completely.

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This! And if she doesn't reach out, you will not have wasted time, going after a girl, who isn't interested in you.

Indifference will NEVER work on emotionally secure women.

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Indifference *always* works on women as long as there is an interest level.

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False. Being indifferent can be perceived as playing games by confident, secure women. Confident, secure women tend to avoid boys that play games.

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Yes, that's why their single at 36 with five cats.

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So you're saying that men should start going for emotionally insecure women with no confidence? I suppose if you can't do better, that's a good second option.

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Never is bit of an overstatement.

Understand that when women are emotionally secure, they don't play games. When you are perceived as a game player, it's unattractive to women who don't play games. So "never" may be an overstatement but if you proceed with that mentality, you'll be better off in the long run.

Plus, being indifferent as an initial response gives you nothing when it comes to seduction. She says, "I'm not sure," and you just go along with it without getting any answers to why she isn't, you're basically hoping that she really didn't mean it or she changes her mind afterwards.

Let's look at it closer:
You: Let's go out.
Her: I'm not sure.
You: (Indifferent)

Being indifferent doesn't give you any more information on why she doesn't want to go out and all you're doing is hoping for the best result. You've handed her complete control over the situation.

You: Let's go out.
Her: I'm not sure.
You: What aren't you sure about?
Her: I think all you want is sex.

She has given you the reason that she isn't sure and your response can easily get her to want to go out with you.

You: Let's go out.
Her: I'm not sure.
You: What aren't you sure about?
Her: I have finals, I'm getting over my ex, and my grandmother died.

She is indicating that the problem is circumstances that aren't you. If she's being honest, you can get her to go out with you when the timing is better.

You: Let's go out.
Her: I'm not sure.
You: What aren't you sure about?
Her: I'm really not into you.

You know that you shouldn't waste your time any further.

I've played the indifferent game in the past and I will say that it works from time to time. When it didn't work, which is the majority of the time, when I found out what went wrong with the girl...the common answer was, "It didn't seem like you cared."

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