lets say you meet a girl at a wedding.
I am personally against saying anything about looks at the beginning like "you're so beautiful"

let's say I start the conversation with: "are you enjoying the wedding?"

and that leads to:
"how do you know them?"
"oh, you are bolivian? you dont look bolivian. were you born here or in bolivia?"
"oh you're a hair dresser? how did you decide to get in the hair industry?"

all of these are great but a gay guy would say the same thing.

how do you introduce some sexual stuff in there? or you dont because when a man talks to a woman, it is implied that he is sexually interested in her?

and when do you introduce the sexual stuff? obviously it cant be too early (because "this guy is being inappropriate") and cant be too late (because you get friendzoned)

by the way, this is not mental masturbation, this is an actual conversation i had at a wedding, i lost another latina

Why did you lose another Latina? Do you think it's possible that it happened because you wanted to skip over the parts that let her know that you find her attractive?

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no, i was thinking "i cant believe she is not mistreating me, i cant believe she is actually talking to me" and "i cant believe this is actually happening, i am actually doing it"

but more importantly, during the conversation i started criticizing myself "i shouldn't have interrupted her there, that was so bad, i am such an idiot" and i got so nervous that i could not breathe. imagine you have just run a mile in 5 minutes and you're so out of breathe that you can't talk. that's how i felt. my mouth locked, i could not talk.

started ok but quickly went downhill.

i dont like saying she is beautiful right at the beginning. that's what every jackass does and it gets their guards up. i am not making up theories, i am saying from experience, it never works for me.
lol that's a good one.

I give women compliments on attractiveness all of the time. I think the difference between me and guys that don't know what they are doing is that they wait for a woman's reaction to it instead of letting it be a passive statement. You'll have the guys that say 9's and 10's (already bullshit thinking) hear how attractive they are all of the time, but as the the old saying goes...it's not what you say, but it's how you say it.

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kezia noble agrees with you, i remember in one of her videos she was saying something like that, "dont wait like a dog for a treat when you compliment someone."

what do you mean by passive?

so i approach a girl "how are you enjoying the wedding? by the way, you're really pretty. [dont wait for an answer] what's the name of that song the DJ is playing? i think i heard it somewhere" that sounds like i have ADHD?

Meaning that you don't look for it to have an effect as you keep going forward. If you jump from subject to subject, it will sound like you have ADHD.

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