Ok so I met this girl at a party (we have some common friends) we got on really well I went back to hers after. We didn't have sex as she said she doesn't want to look easy which is fair enough we just talked and made out.

Next day she is texting me asking to come over she did, we had sex it was great.

She stayed over most of the day we were kissing and cuddling she even said she really liked me. I asked her to go out for few drinks few days later she said yes.

We went out it was great she came back to mine again and had sex.

In the morning she became so distant and cold all of a sudden I been trying to figure out what went wrong but i can't find the reason.

She sent me mixed signals of hot and cold, she was always the one that started kissing and cuddling me and she wasn't doing it.

So when i made a move she didn't cuddle back so i sent her cold signal turned around and started playing with my phone, then she went hot again and cuddled me.

It went like that the whole morning. Now after she left i texted her (after 3 hours) she replied straight away but in my head i thought maybe I'm being too clingy so i didn't respond. waited 3 days and texted her (just saying Hey) She didn't respond waited another day and ask her how her day was. its been 5 days and I still haven't heard anything back. What shall I do?

If you want a good example of how PUA can fuck things up for you, that's a decent example right there. If I have my phone in hands I text straight away. If I'm otherwise occupied with whatever, I text when I'm done doing whatever.
You're not clingy for texting when you can text, obvious as that sounds. What is clingy is when you go to the gym and instead of doing your damn workout you check you phone every 2 minutes to see if there's something to reply to. That's clingy. That's ignoring your own priorities and putting her at the top of the list.
What did you hope to accomplish by waiting 3 days?
Also try being more engaging. "I wish he would stop this fun and enjoyable conversation so we can instead talk about our day over text". Said no woman. Ever.
It's boring man. I roll my eyes whenever I get texts like that and truth be told I'm highly inclined not to respond, because it's borderline draining.
Obviously if she's highly into you a bad text won't be a deal breaker but it will never work in your favor regardless.
OP, here's my most valuable advice I can give you. Communicate.
Honestly this entire situation could have easily been avoided had you just asked "What's wrong?". Some girls will have sudden panic attacks for fear of being labeled as sluts. Others may be insecure about their body. Others may be insecure about their own sexual prowess. There's literally a shitload of possible reasons for that hot and cold behavior and a vast majority of the time it will be that something that has absolutely nothing to do with you.
So invite and encourage her to express herself.
But you didn't, and that led to stupid mind games which probably crippled this "relationship".

If you want to salvage this text with a proper date invite, and if you see her squirming address that.

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Thanks for the advice guys really appreciate it. I got the vibe that she is an insecure person but her dodging my texts kinda make me feel rejected.. What shall I text her? Inviting her on a date after this long pause might not work..

I was thinking maybe something easy going and funny? i found a pic of a dog baking a cake (she loves dogs) so was thinking saying hey not sure why you went quiet on my but heres a pic of a dog baking a cake

What do you think?

You started a fire, I'm telling you to put it out. Whether or not there's anything left to salvage you'll find out once that's done.

If you want nice things don't set them on fire in the first place.

Easy and funny is right. But you're giving me an opener, I give you an objective. Open the conversation however you like as long as the goal of it is setting a clear date. If you're just going to end up talking weather, there's no point to begin with.

PS: Don't mention anything about her not replying. Send the pic, ask "is this you?" and that's that. Don't add awkward pressure by asking her to justify her dodging.

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Haha true

I don't understand why you guys do this? Have some set time in your head that you plan to wait. If you have to deliberately try to avoid coming across as clingy, its probably because you actually are. And it is that that is pushing a woman away, not some text message. Its the nature of where you currently are emotionally. This is where pick up comes into play. Teaching you abundance, learning to have women and let them go, learning to look rejection in the face and carry on like it didn't happen. These things build your emotional fortitude, and prevent you from having to be worried about silly things like " looking desperate".

I can't tell you the last time the idea that I may be looking desperate or clingy has even crossed my mind because I'm so far from that place emotionally. The girl may or may not be a lost cause, but if you truly want to solve issues like this from happening, get out there and begin meeting more women. Thats what this forum is all about.

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So she replied we been texting since but her texts sound a lot different than what they used to be. She is currently on a holiday and won't be back in two weeks so meeting up is not an option SPAM. Any ideas how I can recover from that?

Because it works like Captain Crunch works with milk when you properly employ the tactic on 9's and 10's.

I'll go a week without contacting a hot girl after fucking her, unless she hits me up first. This implies:

1. I'm focused on my career.
2. I get sex often, so it's not a big deal to me.
3. I have options.

These are the qualities that make 9's and 10's chase you, not you texting them and no answer back.

The OP fucked up and made it look like he had no life by lounging around with the girl the next day, then he texted too many times. I would've kicked her out that morning. You got shit to do, man. Set the frame early, because it does matter. You don't have to do this crap later on, but in the beginning it's a nice set of tools to reel in the princesses.

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