Going to make this as short as possible. Met a HB9-10, texted about a week, set up a date for her to come for dinner at my house (some may argue this is not the best first date, but oh well). I cooked an amazing meal, normal everyday behavior for me - not just because of her, had great wine and drinks, played pool laughed, great convo etc.. It escalates, making out etc, were both tipsy and maybe more, so its not a good idea for her to drive. She spends the night, and at this point were both really into each other and the chemistry is high.

We're in my bed, and she tells me that she doesn't want to move too fast and mess things up by going to 4th base, but one thing leads to another and we end up doing it. She spends the night and leaves with me in the AM when I go to work.

I actually DID want to take it slow too and not bang the first date, but I'm not one to turn things down. So clearly she liked me, so did I, and would like to make things work.

Where I am at now: I texted her at 6pm that day and told her that I had a great time and enjoyed her co. and that Im looking fwd to seeing her again soon. Her response is "I had a blast too, TY for the great hospitality and delicious food:)". I would have waited, but didn't want her to think shes a ONS. am I right/wrong here?

My thinking now is not to text her for another 4-5 days? how to play this to make this work and keep seeing her?
thanks bros

Not sure why this is in the relationship subforum for a first date...but ok.

IMO, you've done everything right. I don't see the point of trying to make her wait 4-5 days to hear from you, but I also think it's important not to just contact her just for the sake of contacting her. Me, I would have invited her over again in your text so you can keep the high going.

BTW...I love your initial approach to the date. You've presented yourself as boyfriend material and a sexual option. I wish more guys would see the power in this. Don't mess it up by trying to play games...you've got her in a good place right now.

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thanks for the response, i just did realize that this may be more appropriate in Closing and Day 2’s.

I feel like i could sometimes easily blur the lines between playing games and maintaining post 1st date texts /clinginess. So I'm thinking next time text her just to set up another date...

IMO, clinginess only happens when you're making a push in order to not lose the girl and/or when you're fighting to make sure she's focused on you. That causes resistance. You had sex on your first date and with that, you've created a situation in which the odds are in your favor in which she wants to see you again as long as you don't make her feel like a slut.

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UPDATE: I texted her early on Wednesday morning, 2 days after the morning she left. I said "Hey I wanna call you around noon, will you be available?". This was said with the intent that I was going to call and ask her out on a date later in the week/weekend.

She replies around 1pm and I call her. The morning she left my place, she mentioned that her throat was starting to hurt as if she were getting sick. When I do call her, she sounded terribly sick and like a wreck. So I tell her that I wanted to see her again and wanted to take her out, and she replies with "Friday I'm free after work", i tell her "OK, Ill pick you up at 7:30pm to go out for dinner, text me your address, if you're not feeling well, I'll bring you chicken noodle soup and just hang out". I made it sound funny/cute when I said. Today (Friday), she texts me at noon, saying "Hey I'm still feeling terrible is it alright if we rain check tonight?", my reply is "Sorry you're still sick, btw the chicken noodle soup offer is still on the table".

My question, do I let her make the next move now, or push for another meet up, and when?

Game other girls. Any mistake you may make will most likely be the result of thinking she is now your only option. Instead, view this as evidence, that you can pickup any number of hot women.

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NEVER ask a girl if you can contact her. You've made a few mistakes here. This was your first.

"Will you pick up the phone and talk to little ole me, Princess?"



This is some very weak ass pedestal/princess behavior. You don't know her to have this level of investment. 9's and 10's want a CHALLENGE. They see way, way too many guy who kiss their ass like this. I have no doubt this was red flag for her.



It made you sound like a butler kissing her ass. It also sounded like a bribe for sex.

Are you her mother? god damn man!

Women are not frail, dumb, helpless creatures incapable of taking care of themselves. They are socially more savvy than men, want to fuck, want to catch a buzz and then snuggle.

I would NOT contact her again for 2-3 weeks unless she hits you up. Drop the fucking chicken soup/mother act. She probably let go of the cold days ago (if she even had one). She wants a bad boy who's going to make her scream as she cums in bed, not a soup delivery boy.

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