Actually wanted to post this in PUA lounge, but apparantly need 30 posts. Want to share a fresh experience I had about half an hour ago with a girl at my work and some of my frustration of how I dealt with it.

To improve myself I had set myself the goal today of having a coinfident body stance and being social to people around me. Now part of that is maintaining longer eye contact with others and do a bit of smiling. So when a (reasonable good looking) female colleague walked by I got eye contact and hold. She started smiling and I smiled back.

Then, catching me off guard, she approached me and asked if i could test out her Internet cable which apparantly had broken. Meanwhile telling me that she had already tried it out at 3 different locations. Of course I complied. Of course this would have been a good moment to game her. Unfortunately and to my frustration inside me I was like what am i to say, what to do, what game technique to use. Which made me feel complete blank about what to do to extend the conversation. She of course left after finding out the cable was indeed broken.

Now I think that as a still rather inexperienced AFC I was thinking to much about the game and all these things like negs, DHV's and stuff instead of simply trying to have a fun conversation or even a boring one. Of course the fact that she is a colleague also means I had to be a bit carefull too. But it kinda frustrates me when I suddenly find myself in a situation with a nice woman I freeze up and fail to improvise. Just wanted to get that off my chest

Funny fact about all this is that when she approached me I just had this forum open in my browser. Which I closed really fast. Kinda wonder what impression that must have given her

I think with co-workers its a bit different. i too have been practicing at work with being more flirty and social but i am reluctent to use any negs as i have to work with thesae people and i dont want a bad reputation. what i have tried is talking more to the women i dont useualy talk to, smiling at them more and a bit more touching, just on the shoulder or back when they laugh.

what i managed to do with one woman is i came up from behind her in a playfull manner and grabbed her shoulders and said "grrrrr. whats up" then i said "you feel tense" and started a light massage on her shoulders. she was loving it untill some more people came in to the room and i had to stop.

Indeed. You don't want to give a bad impression. Especially if you're still learning how to be good at this. A good looking female guard here once told me that some drunk guy who was hitting on her got fired after she had complained. In this case he deserved that because he was really being obnoxious. But after hearing that I was even more carefull to just have a regular conversation with her. I did give a flirtatious comment to that guard later that evening though and still am employed here . (And she did seem to like me in a friendly way)