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PostPosted: Mon Jul 18, 2016 10:08 pm 
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I am from Sweden and if you dont know a lot about it, Its that its cold in the winter and people don't like socializing much. It CAN be a problem for going out and sarge but that is not my problem. But there is another problem that has something to do with it. People drink, Alot. Especially teens my age, almost everybody in my school go out and drink with their group of friends every weekend, if you don't drink, you won't have a good time.
Here is my problem, I am an introvert that is friends with these kind of people. Now I am not someone that goes out by himself and talks to girls on the streets of stockholm whether it'd be day or night. So my only way of connecting with people is going to these parties. I can have fun at parties, I really can, but not with drunk people, let me tell you why. In sweden you are not a teen and go and take a beer every once in a while. No, instead you buy cheap vodka and sit by a park with your friends and drink until you puke. So when I go to these parties, drunk cigsmelling girls are not the most attractive things to find there.
I need to find girls in my life that don't go out every weekend and drink vodka simply because i am not attracted to these kinds of people. And what I hate the most is that when I find a girl (at my school or at a party) that doesn't drink and can go outside for a something to eat on a friday night without complaing about being sober, they are usually not attracted to me because they think that I am that type of guy instead. I don't drink but I smoke weed every now and then and being part of a group that drinks in parks until they puke every friday night makes me look like that type of person too (this is what these girls that i have met that im attracted to for that reason have told me.) The thing with me is that I am a person that goes out, has a very good social life and is relatevaly handsome. I look like the type of person i wrote about before, that goes out and drink and makes out with puking girls, but I am not. I am also a nerd that loves music, science, history, videogames, spending time alone all and all I like to be laid back and just think all by myself or talk to someone very deep without any small talk. Do you see where I am going at? Im not just an introvert I am also an outrovert, but introvert girls only see me as an outrovert because of my surrounding. "Go out and meet new friends" Its hard because I dont like nerds that just sit and play all day but I also dont like being with people that go out and gets fucked up all the time. My friends smoke weed and are very passionate about music and psychology spirituality and such, even if in the weekends they all go out and drink. Now my question, how can I project how I am clearly to girls I meet so that they know who I am clearly? Thanks for reading this whole post and for giving answers


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 18, 2016 11:08 pm 
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And what I hate the most is that when I find a girl (at my school or at a party) that doesn't drink and can go outside for a something to eat on a friday night without complaing about being sober, they are usually not attracted to me because they think that I am that type of guy instead. I don't drink but I smoke weed every now and then and being part of a group that drinks in parks until they puke every friday night makes me look like that type of person too (this is what these girls that i have met that im attracted to for that reason have told me.)

The thing with me is that I am a person that goes out, has a very good social life and is relatevaly handsome. I look like the type of person i wrote about before, that goes out and drink and makes out with puking girls, but I am not. I am also a nerd that loves music, science, history, videogames, spending time alone all and all I like to be laid back and just think all by myself or talk to someone very deep without any small talk. Do you see where I am going at? Im not just an introvert I am also an outrovert, but introvert girls only see me as an outrovert because of my surrounding. "Go out and meet new friends" Its hard because I dont like nerds that just sit and play all day but I also dont like being with people that go out and gets fucked up all the time.

My friends smoke weed and are very passionate about music and psychology spirituality and such, even if in the weekends they all go out and drink. Now my question, how can I project how I am clearly to girls I meet so that they know who I am clearly? Thanks for reading this whole post and for giving answers
Sounds to me like you're sending mixed signals - based on what I could make out from this barely-understandable post (English not first language - that's OK).

Maybe you need to avoid the Friday-park-puker crowd to be more convincing of who you are to those girls? Granted, it sounds like they aren't attracted enough to you to give you the benefit of the doubt, either.

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PostPosted: Tue Jul 19, 2016 10:18 pm 
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You can go out to a bar and meet a good girl. A girl who isn't shit faced every weekend. Even if they were fucking ANNIHILATED when we met. I've hooked up with plenty of girls who just happened to be really drunk when we met. It's not like they are drinking all the time...

It's called "getting lucky" for a reason. You met the girl at the right time, in the right place. Alcohol has been helping guys get laid since who the fuck knows when.


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PostPosted: Tue Jul 19, 2016 10:35 pm 
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I'll trade you a couple of those party girls for one introvert girl who's into philosophy?


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