Hello,
I ghost these forums quite a bit and was hoping to get some insight with this girl I've recently met, please bear with me as I attempt a chronology.

Late April - I met this girl on an online dating site, she lived roughly 50 miles away in Austin while I lived in San Antonio, we seemed to have a lot and common and are roughly the same age (33). After emailing back and forth a few times daily, we moved to texting and there was a lot of push pull, she did a lot of initiating and was also very compliant. (sending pics etc)

May - We had a 1st date with K- Close and made an adventure of it. We moved to daily phone calls and Face Timing since meeting every day wasn't an option. Over the course of 3 weeks we had roughly 6 dates, all K-Close, with the last being a night we were forced to stay in a hotel during thunder storm. We did not F- close and i felt like this was a major turning point. i sensed a real loss of interest from her, then she had to leave town for a month to visit family across country. Needless to say, texts dropped off, calls were almost non existent.

June- I tried a little text game but it just seemed like I was texting with a break wall at times, plus i knew she was still active on the same dating site we had meet, leading me to believe (correctly) she was talking to other guys back in Texas despite not being able to see them.

July 8 - She comes back to Texas, by this point we had 2 phone calls the entire month of June, I tried to take her out but got excuses and finally she just said " You're a great catch but i don't have romantic feelings for you." Understanding the delicacy at that point, I made the choice to play it cool saying simply "Well, I'm not surprised, and good luck" I made a point of not deleting her from Facebook and went no contact for 10 days.

July 18th - Over the 10 days I did a lot of DHV activities, going out, being photographed with girls, generally having a ton of fund adventures that were documented on Facebook. I decided to test the waters with text game and she began to respond, i limited myself to only 1 text exchange a day, or every other day, and after 4 days, decided to just call. To my chagrin, she called back that day, we had pleasant conversation much like we did when we first met. Again, I waited another two days before sending a text (1), then a phone call the next day. On that call we made plans to help me pick out some new suits for work. (This wasn't bs as I did need a woman's perception) She then called today, to reschedule to this Friday. (it was supposed to be thursday) I guess the dilemma I have is I'm quite certain I'm not the only guy she's talking to, I also can't tell if she's already Friendzoned me or if I'm still in the game. I also know that if she is talking to someone else, it's another long distance thing, a longer distance then even I was to her. So I'm trying to think how to approach this Friday, or even prevent possible flaking.

Why even talk to girls that far away?

Why are you talking to girls, at months at a time like that?

Why are there no other girls in this equation?

Why did you not have sex with her when it was on a plate for you?

Girls want a man that are socially calibrated to when a girl had put in a plate for them. I am pretty sure the next day, she fucked someone else. That guy owes you a beer.

She imagined this charming guy who has been great on the texting, but when it came to the real life, your character was different to what she had in mind.

I remember back in my early days, there was a girl that was giving me major IOI's and hinting to go home with me. Her friends even left us to it. All I did was make out with her all night and then eventually she just got up and left. She wanted to fuck and she completely ignored my texts the next day. I should have just pulled the trigger and suggested for her to 'DVD and chill'.

It is so unattractive to a girl when a guy can not follow the girl clues to the bedroom. This lesson has turned me into an expert at reading the situation. When a girl tells me that I'm not getting sex that night. I know I am getting sex. Speaking womanese is like another language and an easy one to learn, too

What to do now?

Perhaps tell her you were a clueless idiot that night. Meet up for drinks man. No man in history has got laid from buying suits for a full day. If she doesn;t meet up with you for a drink then consider it over and done. Meanwhile, change your radius and talk to girls where you will have a much higher rate at getting meet ups and not have to mess around driving 50 miles and buying shady cheap motels.

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I'm pretty much gonna say the exact same thing as Dragula.

So.. you want to seduce a girl. Then you take her out on SIX dates with a few kisses being the extent of your intimacy.
Then you somehow end up in a hotel and you don't have sex with her. For no reason. At all.
Then you're surprised her interest levels drop? well yeah, my interest levels would also drop if someone wasted my time like that. 6 dates, a few kisses and a sexless night. Awesome. Maybe 2 years from now the relationship gets to second base. Totally worth it.

Then she blatantly tells you she's not interested and you go ahead "DHV-ing", to a woman you already had in your bed and did nothing with.

Sorry dude, but if you want to get laid you actually have to be a fucking man when she's in your room fully expecting you to do so.

Let it go. Any more time you invest on her is time wasted. You already had your shot and you didn't take it. Learn from that experience and don't do it again. And instead of documenting your life on facebook to impress someone else, try actually living your life. Why post pictures with 10 different girl just to fuck another when you can actually fuck 10 different girls to begin with?

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