Hi all,

Thus is my first post, I hope someone can help me with the following. While I've been an active reader, I usually found all the answers in here but this time it's too specific so I'm opening a topic here, hoping someone can advice.

So I've had a very good first date last weekend, we met during day time and did some outdoors stuff, got along well and really connected. Just talking, no kino yet since I never do this on date one. During the following days we were then texting and I managed to keep the momentum. Also called her recently with the intent of setting up a date when she asked me instead what would be my plans for the weekend and if we wanted to meet. We agreed to meet on the weekend on an evening without fixing the details.

The two days between we kept texting occasionally and the momentum remained good. I asked her today if she's still up for meeting this weekend and she confirmed. Then I did some mistakes, partially because I was too worried about getting it wrong (haven't met someone like her for years, I like her as a person, not just physically ). And been super nervous for the whole week.

So basically then the following happened. I asked her if she knew a good place to meet for a drink (she's been in town for longer but yes I know.. ) and she suggested a nice, upscale bar. I confirmed that this would be cool and that I would do the reservation but couldn't reach that place, they didn't pick up the line. Also I overanalyzed whether I wanted to habe diner before which here is not advised and somehow was worried about going to a fancy place for drinks (too boring). Then I thought I should do something unconventional and I texted her back suggesting that we go to the beach instead to watch the sunset and chill out. She then said that would be difficult with a clear opinion and I tried calling her (it was like in the evening, so probably a bit rude ) and missed her call. Then told her it's hot too urgent and we could discuss tomorrow and she agreed and texted me good night. She also said she's worried about the timing (she has a training going on before sunset). I just wrote back sure, wished her good night.

Now obviously I messed up the momentum. I know I can still meet her and probably just should go to that bar but I wondered how to damage control this. Best is probably to keep calm and just text her tomorrow saying we'd stick to the original plan. But if there's something else I can do, please let me know.

Thanks for any advice.

This is where it goes to shit.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

You're way too in your head. Give her a time and place, and take care of the logistics yourself. She should be able to have confidence in the plan, that things are taken care of. Stop flip flopping around.

Don't be afraid to flirt.
You've been on one date with this girl. You shouldn't be getting like this.
You're over-analyzing here as well.
Sounds like you're freaking out over nothing. Stop worrying so much.

To be honest, I think you're already going to fuck this up for yourself based on what you've written so far because it's all just far too needy and you seem to need a lot more work. But If I was to give a little advice that would get you the lay it would be this...

If she's willing to meet up with you again, she's probably still interested. Just don't go shooting yourself in the leg by being a bitch about things, don't be afraid to be sexual and make sure you give her the night she's looking for.