| When I'm at a club and see a girl I wanna dance with, I walk up and tap her on the shoulder if she doesn't see me. When she turns around, I meet her gaze, give her a wide, very open and friendly but slightly cocky grin combined with a very small, quick, sympathetic nod that says, 'I know. You don't know me. But it's okay. You're safe. You're in good hands.' I don't say hi, I don't tell her my name, I don't ask hers, I don't compliment her dancing--I just flash that smile and the little nod, beckon slightly, jerk my head toward another spot on the floor, say, "C'mon," and hold out my hand. If I'm feeling especially cocky or the girl's really hot or seems stuck up, I take her down a peg by snapping before I beckon. It sounds demeaning and cheesy written down, but 9 times out of ten it works. It has almost never failed me. Now, I fuck up a lot AFTER that lol, but this almost always works to get the girl to dance with me. I go out salsa dancing a LOT, and I get several partners a night with that simple move.
It makes a quick impression and puts her on the spot, but it's intriguing and comforting enough that she'll almost always say yes instead of taking time to mull it over (which is why you don't go through intros or a lengthy "Would you like to..." because she already knows what you want and she gets time to consider it while you're talking, in which case the answer will usually become no). Often if she's with a group, I find the girl will take my hand and walk away with me while shooting a surprised, intrigued, sexy smile back at her friends like, 'OMG did you see what he just did? I can't believe I'm leaving my social net with a stranger, but he was kinda hot!'
If she finds she regrets it, she'll likely dance one song with you, thank you, and walk away...no big loss. Find another chick.
Don't worry about introductions or saying much of anything at all. What you want to convey in a split second is that you're strong, you're in control, but you're not pushy, and she can--should--trust you. If she wants to know anything past that, she can ask while you're dancing. It's all very subtle, but once you work it out it gets results.
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