So i have this friend i used to work with that had the only crush on me back then. I hit it about 3 times. Sex was mediocore due to her insecurities. But anyway she's single now and is back in communication with me. We've always follow each other on IG but now she sends a DM asking me to help her out find a second job.

So im going to assume attraction. Cuz she can ask anyone to help her find a job. And second i want to kind of make this into a favor for a favor type of thing. I told her i can help her with her resume but it would cost her. And told her i want a sexy picture accompanied by that resume. So im waiting to see if she complies. So far she has put up some resistance and said she doesnt take those kind of pics. But she has let me twke pics of her in her bra & panties before in her house after we fucked and once in the bathroom at work.

But in the event that she doesnt send this pic. How should i proceed? Should i be non reactive and just not help her or should i make it clear that things aren't going to progress unless i get my needs met as well?

Well now you've put your foot in it.

If she doesn't comply and you help her anyway, it's game over.

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She has tried this before. Thats why she came back today asking if i ever got the email with her resume. Of which my reply was "no, i didnt get the resume or pic"

Stick to your guns

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Prrtty much. And if it never happens ill just cut her off. She really has nothin to offer besides her box lol

But.. She's not giving you her box for help. You asked for a PICTURE. I have no idea why you'd complicate sex like this. Are you going to sleep with this make it or break it picture?

He set the bar.

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Whole point of asking for the pic is to not do this favor for free.
The pic is just for eye candy while im at work as well to keep the sexual vibe between us considering its been like a year since i've seen her in person

But it's not a sexual vibe... It's more likely to start a prostitute vibe as she's already not into doing it. Look, you've slept with her before.. She hit you up. What about a simple "sure come over and let's look at your resume." I mean... Helping someone find a job.. Call me crazy but it would go smoother in person. Plus let's you meet which is the most important thing. I would've just told her come by and let's work on it, help her, bang her.

Isn't this all pretty silly? You've assumed attraction, as you should have, so there was no reason to do this tactic. Your compliance demand is blown way out of proportion. You would have done much better with something that got you and her in the same room. That is your real goal, isn't it?

Her: Can you help?
You: Send me some nude pics and I will.
Now you look like an ass.

Her: Can you help?
You: If you make me dinner I will.
That's a fair deal and you end up on her couch starting a movie that you two won't finish.

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Your absolutly right. But sometimes people read too much into a situation and forget all about the original question to begin with. The onjective wasnt a f close.
So little history of this girl.
We met at my old job about 5 years ago. She pretty much served her pussy to me on a platter. She already was living with her LTR and they have kids together. I never had to take her out or go into any heavy game. She did all the work. Would even try to take my dick out in the middle of the street and everything. Same thing at work, lots of sexual escalation/tension and i even took pics of her with her pants down after she blowed men in the bathroom. We eventually fucked one night she invited me to sleep over her house while hubby was out of town. Last time we hung out was at the gym about a year ago and the sexual vibe was still there. This girl is pretty much a slut but Our schedules conflict alot now so thats why its difficult for a meet up and thats why i only asked for a pic. So this whole thing isnt about an f-close. Its about reigniting that flame and having her jump through my loops.
Inviting her to make dinner for me? Nah never needed it before so thats asking for too much.
She posts selfies on IG all the time so i screen shotted one and sent it to her. Telling her thats what i want, just minus the extra clothes. Bra & thong only. She laughed and said there u go, take that ig pic. At this point i let her know that she playing games and the pic on IG isnt sexy enough. I want something for my eyes only.
I might think that she's over the crush and that put me into the friendzone, thats why i said if she doesnt reply back with the pic, im not doing anything for her. And if she gets mad and leave then oh well. I would only be loosing a female friend that was good company nothing else

I get the original question and had that in mind when I made my statement. What you did is the equivalent of burned a bridge and then tried to figure out how to get back to the other side. You shouldn't make bad choices and then try to come up with a strategy to fix it.

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Now u make more sense to me. U did make a good point before though. About her not being into taking the pic and instead just invite her over. Only prob i see with that is she will def expect the resume to get done, and might not even comply with what i want. So i guess its a closed case on this one

I have literally read this 5 times and still confused.

I'll make this simple

If what you want is:

a) A sexy picture from her

Ok, thats kinda a long way to get a picture of a chick by helping her with her resume. Its crazy to me if youd want a picture that bad to help and throw away the chick over a picture

b) Sex

In that case, just invite her over.

Nothing you're saying makes sense. A picture isnt worth all this. Sex doesnt require a picture to be sent. You talk abt reestablishing the flames, I dont know if you honestly think that getting a girl to send you a pic begrudgingly makes her wet. Why are you throwing up a hoop for a chick you banged, who you assumed attraction with in the first place? You would really throw away a "good company female friend" because she doesnt send you a picture? Man you are making shit way too crazy and trying to game in this weird way. I'm literally confused as fuck what kinda game you're playing.

maybe my english is bad.
a picture cost nothing and only takes about 2 min. like i mentioned to her..next time u take a selfie, just take off some clothes. simple as that

i dont have to make her wet, she's a slut. she is always wet
im throwing a hoop because she has flaked before and now asking for a favor. so like a previous comment said, "i'm setting a bar for her"
i can take the risk of throwing away this female because for the past year she has been nothing besides a chat buddy. something that is easy replaceable
to try and clear up some of your confusion. i have placed myself somewhat in the friend zone. or orbiter zone. which is why she is here asking me to update her resume. im i the only one that see's this as a frame test?
why ask me to do something she can do herself or get someone else to do. so to maintain my fwb "we can be friends but only if we fucking" frame, i'm throwing that sexual hoop in.