Hey guys, I have a female friend I known for 2 years now and I'm attracted to her now. We hang out once in a while and always take her to nice dinners and stuff and activities after. Here's the situation, couple weeks ago I ask her schedule this week and she said she's working everyday but she's free next week. So I booked a nice dinner and show for us and it cost $200 cause I want us to have that experience together. Then she posted a pic of another dude that looks like me and doing all the activities that we normally do like dinner and bowling. She even told me before that she doesn't want to do those activities except with me. So, it kinda bothered me cause first of all she said she's not available then later found out she's with another guy. So I texted her the next day saying that she found another version of me but jokingly, but I was honestly calling her out for that, then she said it was her friend back in college that she hasn't seen for a while. I know I shouldn't be but I feel disrespected for some reason. Now, I don't feel like going out with her anymore and cancel on her that same day were going out. I will lose $200 cause it's non refundable. What's your advise guys cause I need opiniins from you guys. Should I still hangout with this girl or just completely forget about her?

i wouldn't,if you are friends you are friends,go for something if you are wiling losing her as a friend,i would also never take her out for dinner unless she is my girlfriend but not before that,coffee or go for a walk is less expensive and you are not the one funding her,i prefer go for a walk,coffee is boring,my opinion,you can try show up "accidentally with another girl and see how she reacts to it,is she jealous or not,but i wouldn't bother with her in the first place

Do you know another girl that you can take? The money is spent already, so you can either take her or someone else.

Question: How is it that you all of a sudden like her? Was she unattractive and you fell for her personality? Did she lose a lot of weight since you've first met? Most guys are attracted or not attracted to a woman and doesn't just come suddenly.

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Everyday here I read something a little bit sadder than the day before. Wow

Either a) continue taking her out
or b) Stop and change your life completely. Something is seriously wrong if this is the kind of shit youre doing and even feeling sad abt

She has done nothing wrong. You only have yourself to blame for this.

You fancy her but you've never expressed this or made a move on her. She see's you as a guy friend. This is the typical friend zone story.

So what if she has another guy friend and she's doing the same thing with him? How is this disrespectful? If you were sexually exclusive with her then yeah it would be disrespectful, but come on man, if you've never made any moves or got this girl into any other zone other than the friend zone then how is she supposed to know how you feel about her?

And now your getting jealous because really you wanted to stick your dick in her but never have, and she's starting to hang out with other guys. But for all she knows you are just a friend, whether this other dude is her friend or if she see's him as romantic potential or not is irrelevant and at this moment in time you don't have any say in that whatsoever because you made it that way.

One thing is for certain. If you start being bitchy about it and crying because you never made your move. You are never going to fuck her and she will do stuff like this and fuck some other guy eventually. Pick up 101 is not to friend zone yourself like this, all these things you've been doing together is what friends do so it's no wonder you have that sort of relationship with her. If you'd have framed it as a romantic and sexual relationship from the start you would not be having this problem.

There are a few ways you can get salvation from this and still boink her. But honestly man it's going to be tough. The first thing you need to do is accept you are in the friend zone position right now. Do you understand?

A little comedic addition... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHZsleyKons

Agreed.




Yep. Worst thing you can do is whine about not getting a girl's attention/sex.

I once saw a text on an ex gf's phone (we weren't all that serious). I was seeing her at the time, and her ex before me kept trying to hit her up, inviting her to concerts, etc. She'd politely string him along for her own amusement. Then, he texted: "Come on Kim, why don't you show up? So far this has been a one way street on my end."


She never texted him again.

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Op yo need format to your brain. Typical loser behaviors are yours. 2 sentence are enough to understand what kind of guy you are.

1. She is your friend, she can jump to everyones dick except you, nothing say.

2.200 bucks expesive shit to buy her attention or ticket out from the friend zone - wrong move

3. I will lose that money cuz i have no another pussy. Weak mindset, loser mentality. Use it for getting boosted in one week to get another chick.

Totally NEEDY.

Next time do not be stupid like that. I know you are a nice guy but it is not paying off. Be the badass motherfucker. Do not invest her 200 bucks, invest yourself nexttime. Buy pick up artist , psychology books in order to improve yourself. Do it or not. I do not fucking care.

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Learn to attract women, that's how you discovered this forum surely?

Being a door mat ain't attractive, buying a girl's affection makes it less likely for you to have sex with her

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To OP:
You have yourself to blame for the girls behavior. Women don't fuck with nice guys but douchebags....go figure!
What is the point of the expensive dates? Have you kissed this girl before or made any sexual moves towards her? Does she know you are interested in her as you guys have been friends for 2 years?

Your behavior has landed you very deep into friend-zone.

As one of the posters said above, you have come to the right place if you want a change (which you seriously need btw)

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I decided to cancel on her that day and I will bring a different girl with me that day who has potentials

Please don't be 'Treating' this 'different girl'

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The reason I'm doing that cause the tickets are non refundable so instead of cancelling it and lose big bucks, I'll bring a different girl instead.

Take a friend instead?

You're only going to look unattractive to this new girl too, you just don't get it do you? A normal human would learn from the last experience...

Anyway, you clearly know what you're doing, what do we know?

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A $200 first date.

Lmao!

Alright point taken... I already cancelled the other girl too I'm bringing my cousin instead. I didn't actually cancelled on the first girl I mentioned yet. I will cancel on her on the exact day maybe 2 hours before the mentioned time. And were actually texting each other and she's so excited about it and really looking forward for that event not knowing that I'll just cancel on her. And tomorrow she's going to drive me around to do my errands cause my car broke down. I feel like a jerk right now but I guess it is what it is