Hi. First time poster here. So there is this girl I work with. Big mistake, I know. I'm her boss. We've worked together about 6 months. I've never really been interested in her. But she has grown on me. She is always really flirty at work and compliments my suits and calls me sexy often.

Sometimes she will call after she leaves work just to see how things are going. We recently started texting and she asked me out for drinks and I agreed to meet her at a bar by her place. While we're together she jokes with other people at the bar that I'm her husband and comments about how this is our first date numerous times. I never referred to it as a date.

She talks about how she needs to get laid and about how we must keep this a secret at work so I don't get in trouble. So anyway. After being there about 5 hours we are both drunk and I walk her home. When we get there i go in to give her a kiss and get totally rejected. I'm really confused. She tells me to text her when I get home. When I get home I say goodnight to her and she doesn't respond til the next day and she is really short with me all day. At one point I say I'm going to see a movie that night and she says don't get too drunk. I say "you think I'm an alcoholic or something" and she says nope I think you're easy. I was like wtf? Don't know how I'm easy when she pursued me for months or at least I thought she was.

So, next day at work together she goes right back to acting the same as always. Flirty. Said she had a great time with me the other night and asked if she was cool enough to hang out again with me.

Totally confused I make the mistake and ask why did she not kiss back when I tried to kiss her. She says she hadn't really even thought about it. So I say ok. I guess I got the wrong read on this whole situation. Let's just forget about it and not let things be weird at work. To which she responds "yeah". No more texts after that. I'm stumped. No idea what is up with this girl. Any ideas?

FAIL! A little standard LMR and your ran. That girl was so DTF and you dropped the ball.

She wanted the 'Netflix and Chill' invite.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

So why would she say she had a great time? Or ask if she was cool enough to hang out with me again?

She did have a great time, right up til you dropped the ball. Then she offered up the 2nd chance.

You totally blew that out with;
No wonder she went cold. She's likely wondering WTF is wrong with her you didn't like.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

All I wanted was too hook up. If there is one thing I know. This is not where I went wrong.

She wanted the same thing. BUT didn't want to look like a slut to her boss or peers, she wanted it to be YOUR fault.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Nobody would have known. People knowing equals me getting fired. I feel like she is an attention where.

Well yeah, why the fuck would you accept blame for blowing it.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I feel like your read is more off than mine.

Well let's hear your rundown?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Well she said she thinks I'm easy. Lol. Obvious not being dtf was my problem.

SHE didn't want to come off easy. Yes she was fully aware you just wanted to dick her. Even sluts don't want to be seen as such.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

So what was I supposed to do?

Use some push-pull.

Tell me the steps that escalated to the kiss fail.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Honestly everything was going great til the fail. I thought it was playing hard to get at the time.