So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months (not exclusively) and he's been pretty consistent. Well was. He took me out for Valentines Day and ever since then he's asked to see me every week and even multiple times during the week so I think it's safe to say he's interested. Any who while hanging out he was asking about my ex and why we broke up and if we had ever lived together. I was a little too honest and said "no I like my space" *smacks forehead*. Then I just kept going when he asked about previous guys I told this guy that I have issues with getting close (people getting too close and I push them away). I guess you can label it intimacy issues? My dumba** even gave him examples when he asked what do you mean instead of just leaving it alone.

I'm not sure if I spooked the poor guy or not. When he got close to me later on he made a joke and ask if that was too intimate for me. Even when he walked me to my car he kissed me then went in for a hug and said, "oh another intimate moment".

I'm not sure if he was joking because he was okay with what I said or if he was bothered by it.

Just before seeing him and oversharing he had asked to see me 3 days in a row but I hadn't heard from him all week. My friends said it sounded like I was hinting for him to back off (which isn't the case).

I wasn't sure what to do so I finally reached out. I'm a nurse and had crazy hours this past week and wanted to call but I had to shoot him a text. I mentioned an inside joke then mentioned the oversharing moment. Pretty much said to forget what I said because that's not how it is now. He laughed at the joke and commented on it but didn't even acknowledge what I said to clear the air. Not sure why he did that. I'm still confused.

I do want him to close though I just didn't know when to shut up.

So was he bothered by what I said and that's why he made the jokes? Thoughts?

It seems you are bot in any relation since long time. You are overthinking that stuff plus you have inner game problem issues.

Best thing youcan do stop chasing, let him chase you again. If you act that way in the end of the story probably you will get rocked and dumped.

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Bot? As far as the chasing I haven't done any chasing (at least I don't think so) I sent that text. He replied and I didn't respond...

He was the one who kept asking to see me those times before.

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....don't really see how that meme applies here at all

Quick question. Why did you feel the need to carry-on with the disclosure?

His silence the past week is atypical. Rather than sitting here guessing, why not ask him directly?

"Hey you:) Playing hard to get I see." Engage him, and stick with the observation (e.g., him not texting you this week, unlike others), rather than any evaluations of what he's doing TO you. It's the later thinking that is suicidal and causes breakdown.

No worries he doesn't either. That's what happens when you have a breakfast with Jim Beam.

I don't know lol once I got started I just kept going. It definitely wasn't my intent to disclose so much information. Yea I guess you're right. I just didn't want to come off as too aggressive and chase so that's why I've been hanging back. To be honest I'm not used to going out of my way not because I'm some uppity woman just wasn't raised to do that.

I'm most curious about why you felt the need to disclose beyond what you'd consider 'normal'.

I can speculate:
-to rattle off a laundry list of things you DON'T want from a partner
-to have confused disclosure with being vulnerable in an attempt to connect
-to demonstrate that you don't take crap, and come-off as a moral exemplar
-to share your 'war stories' in hopes of finding some level of commonality (which fits into the 2nd speculation)

Or is it something else?

Should I have read it?

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Well he was asking about my past relationships. Asking about my ex quite a bit actually, and I just kept going. I guess I got a little to comfortable and didn't realize that I said too much until days later. Especially when I thought about his 'jokes' and realized it must have bothered him for him to say anything, joke or not.

Again, you're evaluating what's going on in his head. And on here hoping somebody can tell you what's going on in his head, when really he's the only one which begs the question why waste time here when you can ask him and find out for certain.

Are you fearful of what he may say? That it may prove your assumption to be true? What's the worst that can happen? He dumps you? Do you want to be with somebody where you place your needs subservient to theirs and play a passive aggressive game going to others to try and figure them out all the time?

Anyone else find it funny at the irony of you pushing a guy away by telling him you tend to push guys away? Maybe it's just me

No not at all. I left after the date perfectly fine and wasn't worried at all. It wasn't until I told my girlfriends about the date they said well you put your foot in your mouth and he's probably backing off because of what you said. I on the other hand didn't see it as a big deal until they said that. So I came here to get a man's perspective.

As far as my needs that'll always come first. Again, like I said I was just always raised to have a man come to you and it's best to not go after him and be too forward. I think a lot of us women are that way. That's why we analyze and wait to see where the cards falls.

Nope not just you lol.