Hi all,

I'm new to the community; just seeking for some advice. So here's my story. After my break up with my ex I decided to give online dating a go. I managed to get the girl's number and it turns out that we both go to the same uni. It's been a week now since we've been texting and exams and work are starting to pile up. I've noticed that there were texting IOIs but I can't tell if I'm just a texting buddy. So earlier today I sent her a text saying hey you come drop by the anime club. Theyre showing a new series. Now we're both part of the same club but weve never met since she hasnt gone to it in a while. She gives me a response saying im meeting up with my group for a project tonight. So i take it as that she's not interested and i act a bit cold. Instead of insta replying i waited for 10 or so minutes and said that's cool. She then sends me a text saying she feels bad for missinf club since Tuesday and Thursdays are her busies days. At this point im still a bit cold and sent hee another delayed message saying You gotta do whatcha gotta do. After a couple minutes she says what's up. I respond saying not much. At this point i think she was getting the hint that i wanted to meet up with her in person and says i might go thursday. I respond saying cool. Im busy thursday. I probably overplayed the role of being cold there. She says oh. I have an exam tomorrow and I'm nervous. I say do something that destresses you. Again i mightve been too cold since she didn't respond to that. Then later we have a good convo and rapport building. She finds out my fb through the club announement and found out that we had a mutual friend and we talked a bit about that. After the end of convo a few hours later she sends a funny picture but i didnt respond since it's quite late. At this point should i use a disqualifier? Saying that she makes a great txting buddy or should i just continue texting or arrange a meet up?

Update: I managed to get her to meet up and go to a few places. For some reason I don't feel connected to her.

You have been texting for two weeks. Did you ever show any intent? Is she aware you're not interested in being only her text buddy?
Did you build any attraction during the two weeks?

Whether or not you should continue (start) texting her properly or ask her out is a matter of what you've been doing so far.

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It's been only a week but you're right. I did lack intent. If anything came close to intent it would be when i mentioned my ex and when i suggested her to attend club.

At this point im not sure how i can build attraction and state intent. Can you offer some tips or resources i can use?

Also, how do i arrange a meeting without making it awkward or bring pushy?

Read my guide. Link's in the sig.

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Invite that chick out, if she says no, ignore. She should know if she acts this way , u wont be there. Too much foreplay sucks. Another option you know where she is, visit and say let's go drink. If she declines, congratulations you have friendzoned.

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Cause she clearly likes you too much for you to like her. Thats why she kept chasing after you were being completely unresponsive. Keep her around and she'll start to work hard to get you to like her. Buy you gifts, doing you favors, etc. You could use that or you could just let her go.

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Read RC's guide. It's VERY long, but it's only about 5% of your journey lol. There is no quick solution to anything when it comes to women. You could be doing this for 10 years and you'd still one day find yourself arguing with a woman and feel like you're back to square one. Think of it like working out - you're never finished and there is no quick fix (obviously there are shitty little routines, which are like a steroid - you'll end up fucked up lol)

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