I'm usually always in a good mood, and relaxed as well. I try not to take criticism harshly and when my friends jokingly call me a b**** I try to laugh it off and joke back. Something in my mind snaps though everytime and I feel like im losing respect from people when they act like this.

Today in school, I had just one of those days where I just feel like being alone and not really talking to anyone. I try to pump myself up with all these "I'm confident, i'm cool, so on" but they just don't work.

In my third period class me and two friends were joking around and one of them ended up calling me a f***** so I call him back but i'm serious ( I dont even know why I take it like such a threat ) and he goes on capping on me and I felt like shit, like I couldn't keep control of the situation. Conclusion to this little story is how do you deal with punks like this? How do you guys joke back without losing your cool or getting mad?

Also this is another thing that really pissed me off today, there's this black girl in my class who already has a boyfriend but she has an annoying need to always punch me or slap me ( I'm no AFC or a wussy, and I continiously try to put her in her place but it never works ) PLEASE PUA Brothers teach me to stop these crazy bitches that have such a need to punch someone just because I can't hit her back, I've already tried joking "Did you have a angry childhood? Is that why you have to punch people? I know its a nice way to be flirty but sometimes too much is too much, especially when it ends up getting slapped in face just for a stupid discussion that I want her to stop. I can't avoid her, she sits in front of me.
What can I say and such

Also one last rant, I was sitting in the bench today with my friends and i'm usually left out from all the people there since they've known each other for 4 years and I just recently joined. This one "popular" dude sat with us today and I just felt quiet while he was around.

Guys, please help me out... these are the only things bringing me down from being the confident guy I want to be. I don't want you guys to assume that i'm really badly off, cause i'm not I think i'm pretty much set in everything, this is the only three things I suck at, my weaknesses.

Watch the movie The Secret

no other help guys?

if any jock/jerk/complete f'er keeps waking u and shit. ignore those cunts, i no that ur allways told to do that shit, but it works after a few days (may be a while my bad) they will just be like holy fuck this guy really doesnt give a rats, but on the other hand blablabla does. bullies pick out weak targets. ignore those mofos and teach them all a lesson by learning how to play. imagine the bully that u hate seeing you at the shops chatting to some HB10, imagine how u can (on the inside) be like booyeah in ur face. i dealt with bullies during y 7-9 and they got over trying to piss me off. now when i go out with mates and i see those same guys it gives me the motivation to go "hell with my AA, im going in"

gl man tho, remember everyone has shit days/weeks. its life

Just constantly sarcasticly agree with them, it worked for me.

But then again ignoring them is easier.

Hey how we all doing?

There are two ways to deal with this one is confrontational where you speak your mind and people will respect you for that or you can go to the other side of the spectrum where you ignore it and laugh or throw in a sarcastic comment that makes you look better. Honestly though speak your mind what is the worst that can happen?

At least your not worrying and ranting about it.

ChowforNow,

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Now .. I (and others) .. have tried a more sugar coated / feel good approach to getting guys to come out. Truth be told, it hasn’t worked anywhere close as well. I'm disappointed that with all the free resources, and the cool guys that we have offering free advice, so few people actually make use of it, go out consistently, and get better with women, instead of dabbling and keyboard jockeying.'

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'Only see, somehow it always seems that I'm learnin' or something I can never be It dosen't matter to me, 'cause I will always be that pimp I see
in all my fantasies I don't know your fucking name.So what?
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I'd tell them to quit being such tools, and if they have issues that badly that they have to take it out on you then they should go visit the counselor so then can grow up a little.

Well as for ur friends, if they were just playing around, don't take their jokes to heart, always no matter who u are or where u are, there's always gona be some assholes tlkin shit, always, so don't take it to heart. Also u cld try tellin them wit a straight n serious face 2 ur friend to not call u w.e he calls u cuz u don't like it n its pissin u off, if he doesn't respect that, then he's not a tru friend...

As for that annoying punching chick, lol that's a hard one, umm well u can be like wit a stink face "ur not cute" or "u think ur cute" when she hits u, try 2 make her feel stupid or immature for acting like a lil girl by hitting u.

And for that popular dude, shoot I've been there, the best u can do is either befriend him so u can be ALPHA male wit him untill u feel comfortable with him inuff to take the crown form him. Or try to c it as a challenge or obstacle, c if u can b the alpha even with a natural alpha male, in the group(I reccomend the first choice)

Overall don't think too much, and take it easy..

Being a pacifist allows me to defuse these situations quickly without a fight. Just tell them you are going play their stupid shit or fight them, even if they are threatening to hit you or whatever. Then ask them how all the girls in the room (or school, or even some of their friends) would think of them for beating up someone that not only did not fight back, but had no intention of EVER fighting back. (Make sure you say it loud enough for a couple HBs to hear)

Despite the common idea that people will proceed to take it to a fight, but shame sets in and they back off. The only people that go through with it are the ones looking for a fight, nothing you can say will deter them from doing so. Also you get points for being alpha and taking care of the situation (girls love power).

An example my roommate last year had friend who after finding out about me being a pacifist:
XXXX: I would just punch him a lot
Roommate: That's not the point
Later they told another friend and that person said "XXXX you are an asshole"

People with the right wiring don't do certain things. Beating up a pacifist is one of those. Another would be the mentally ill, if a guy in a helmet comes up to you in the mall and starts humping your leg, punching is still a no-no.