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PostPosted: Sun Apr 03, 2016 6:10 pm 
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I'm so confident in my attraction/comfort/seduction skills, based on my results.
But even being in, and learning game for almost 5 years, there's that massive wall of approach anxiety. And as many opportunities I've scored, I've squandered twice as much because of this one stupid giant brick wall of the first step. The Approach.
Day game, I won't even bother approaching because I can't imagine (in MY mind) a way to do so without the girl thinking automatically "ok, what's this guy going to try to sell me"
So gentleman, I would extremely appreciate your absolute BEST approaching advice.
And trolls, I would absolutely love a laugh from what you nerds have to say.

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 04, 2016 4:36 pm 
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There's no easy way around it, but just by flooding yourself with approaches to desensitize you to them. I've actually reframed the approach as me getting anxiety for NOT approaching because I feel I would be missing out on so much. I'm also extremely horny and I just open without thinking when I see a hot girl. There is no thought process in my mind except that I want to have sex with her. The hotter the girl is, the less "approach anxiety" I have. Sometimes I actually get approach anxiety with less attractive girls because the "sex drive" isn't pushing me as much. Once I get some momentum and get in a talkative and social state, then I can talk to pretty much anybody. It's all about constantly pushing past your comfort zones. There is no easy way. Just do it.

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 04, 2016 7:35 pm 
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I won't even bother approaching because I can't imagine (in MY mind) a way to do so without the girl thinking automatically "ok, what's this guy going to try to sell me"
This right here is your problem. If you were trying to sell the girl something and you were a damn good salesman, she would know it from the second you walk up to her. As you approach, she would know that you mean business.

The secret there is "intention."

If you had something to sell, your intentions are going to be clear, right?

So be clear on your intentions. You're NOT there to sell her anything. You're there to hit on her.

I wrote an article on my blog called "What is in intention? Why Direct Game is Best." It will give you a more detailed answer to your question... I really don't feel like retyping it all and they are gay about posting links on here.


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