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I won't even bother approaching because I can't imagine (in MY mind) a way to do so without the girl thinking automatically "ok, what's this guy going to try to sell me"
This right here is your problem. If you were trying to sell the girl something and you were a damn good salesman, she would know it from the second you walk up to her. As you approach, she would know that you mean business.
The secret there is "intention."
If you had something to sell, your intentions are going to be clear, right?
So be clear on your intentions. You're NOT there to sell her anything. You're there to hit on her.
I wrote an article on my blog called "What is in intention? Why Direct Game is Best." It will give you a more detailed answer to your question... I really don't feel like retyping it all and they are gay about posting links on here.