I've always had this problem where I'm either not sexual
Enough physically in terms of "kino" cause I'm not really a touchy freely person, or being really sexual verbally. One doesn't have intent at let them know your sexual where as the other just makes them think your creepy, how do you go about finding the balance.

Though balance is almost always the right choice, I think it's best to (if you're tryn to date) to just find a girl that reciprocates the way you like and enjoys you. I have dated women that get "creeped out or don't like" by me doing little things like touching their back, or rubbing their arm ie kino 101. When I get this type of rejection, it's a red flag for me; I am not going to spend my time or money with a woman that doesn't like affection or rejects mine, because I'm very affectionate and need the woman to be more so. Sometimes, you can get there with time, but I have never stuck around that long bc usually there were other things that made me drop it. The girls that like you and like your affection will always let you get physical pretty fast (within the first few series of dates). If that doesn't happen, then depending on your goals, you wait or move on.

Just be careful so that you're not flagrantly creepy and you'll be fine.

Obviously there's a randomness factor involved. Some people are put off but the slightest of things. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

_________________
I know my place. It's me on top of the world.

My in depth texting & dating guide.
There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.

Physically I'm never to overtly sexual it's more verbally, I think it's the subtlety I lack, girls respond best to subtle sexual stuff rather than overtly being direct which as men we are notorious for. I've found girls prefer it when the message is hidden in what your saying which annoying cause men don't naturally think like this. Like the guys I know that we good with women, both are good looking but they're very touchy with about being rapey but when I do the same thing it Deffo doesn't come across the same way lol.

What you're referring to is " being smooth." And that comes with time. And yes usually subtle messages work the best, esp when meeting strangers.

Just get out there, hold the hands of 200 different girls, keep on holding those hands until they pull back, and then aim for holding a girl's hand for at least two minutes without any discomfort or resistance from her end.

Almost everything that you do in life requires repetitive practice: from walking, shitting on the toilet, brushing your teeth, reading, to driving your car... Just chop away at the numbers and you'll be fine in no time.

_________________
Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

You're gonna creep some girls out. Might as well just get over it. You're gonna creep girls out by not being sexual enough either.

lol, yeah it's a fine line between creepy aggressive and dickless glass-eyed Ken doll.

Every situation is different. But like another poster said, I like affectionate women, so if my touches aren't reciprocated I'm turned off.

_________________
Pickup coach. PM for direct, simple coaching.

The balance can be found in sending mixed signals. You want to come across sexual but not creep her out? What I do is if there's something about her I don't like, I'll tell her that I don't like what she's doing but I'll look at her as if I'm eye-fucking her- so my verbals and non-verbals conflict a little, so when she decides on how you made her feel- it's not creepy or aroused, it's intrigued. Remember, intrigue inspires chase- when she's chasing you can reciprocate her "spike in temperature" by being either more sexual or distant. Both seem to work fine.

_________________
FOREVER A STUDENT OF SEDUCTION

You must be seduced by women in order to seduce women-ElijahGuru

Lloyd- Party All Over Your Body https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9DgwZnjI_M

Kind of agree with this. I call it being a tease however. That's playful.

Sending mixed signals is too gamey for my taste.

_________________
I know my place. It's me on top of the world.

My in depth texting & dating guide.
There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.