I'll start this off by saying I'm much better at talking to girls in real life than via texting or dating sites. 5 years ago I never thought that would've been possible, but there's less to distract a girl when you're face-to-face.

Below is an example of a typical text exchange with a girl. I met her this weekend at a bar. After the place closed we stood outside talking for a while and then walked to the subway together. I didn't go home with her, but I managed to isolate her from her friends and spend some decent time with her.


Me: You know, we never found out each other's favorite [Band name] song
Her: Haha who's this xD
Me: [Name], the handsome guy you met at [Bar] this weekend
Her: How could I forget?! Mind blank. Matt's mate right?
Me: If Matt's mate walked to the subway with you afterwards, then yes
Her: My apologies, must of had a few more drinks than what I first thought xD So, favorite song then?
Me: You first

[24 hours later she responds]

Her: Haha to be honest, couldn't think of any off the top of my head



Me: No worries, there will be plenty more to talk about when we get together next week
Her: Alrighty then xD What's your last name?
Me: Do you need my social security number too?
Her: You're funny Big Grin
Me: I'll be in [Neighborhood] on Tuesday, let's meet up at [Bar]. If you're lucky you'll get my PIN number too
Her: Add me [Facebook link]
Me: We'll see how Tuesday goes
Her: I don't know who you are! [Yet she remembered me earlier]
Me: You're young, your memory can't be that bad
Her: A visual clue might trigger my memory?
Me: Will it?

Then silence.

The thing is pretty much every text interaction with a girl follows the same pattern - As the interaction goes on, the girl takes longer and longer to respond. I deal with this by taking longer than her to respond. So the above interaction, 19 texts long, took 3 days. The second pattern is I'm usually bombarded with shit tests almost immediately after asking the girl out. I never get a yes or a no, it's either silence if it's a definite no or they toy with me (Which I view as a no since it's not a definite yes).

Any advice on where I'm going wrong is appreciated.

When you get a girls number let her know that it's for the purpose of meeting up. That way you can avoid these three day build ups.

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I think you pushed the girl into a loop of rejection, sorry cant find the right words to describe it.
At this point, I would have realized that she doesnt remember me and made it easy for her. You're already starting out with confirmation that she is not that interested, so I won't push the mysterious, cocky stuff.
Thats what happens when you see the girl doesnt remember you but chose to be vague. Now, its awkward that she remembered another guy from the weekend over you.
At this point, you shouldve just said it. She's not that interested, and you're pushing her to think on something.
You're being difficult, when she the fuse is already short. I get you're being playful, but there are other ways to do it.
Now you're suggesting a meetup, when you were for the most the 2nd guy she wanted to text her.
Difficult again. She cant remember you, isnt ready to go out. She wants to creep your fb and see if you're a cool guy.
No she didnt. She acted like she did.

I'm all for using texts to set up meetups, but you gotta realize where you are with the girl. If you're first text had gotten an enthusiastic response and callback so you knew she was happy you texted her and she remembered you, sure go for the meetup. If you see she's not really remembering you, you gotta build your shit again. I mean, she's telling you she doesnt remember you, do you think she'd really go out with someone she cant even remember?