A lot of PUA's (& my own experience) say women get uninterested once the chase stops if you haven't F closed more or less. Niel Strauss calls it the 'cat string theory'. My question then is: when, how, and how shouldn't I show interest in a woman I'm gaming. Please feel free to mention any other general opinions on cat string theory and the like.

I guess what it means is that you don't become predictable, either in showing interest or not showing interest. Because if you show interest continuously, the girl will lose attraction. And on the other way around, she'll think that you are not interested at all. So basically you have to keep her guessing and maintain a balance. "Two steps backward and One Step Forward" summarizes it perfectly.

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Push-pull, emotional roller coaster rides and uncertainty are universal behaviors in human courtship/mating rituals. Hence, you've got Dr. Helen Fisher, Dr. Karl Grammer and several other minor researchers saying the same thing: Love forms through obsessive thinking due to those emotional roller coaster rides and what-have-you. Only the most inexperienced idiots and keyboard jockeys on here say otherwise; that girls (or men) who crave emotional roller coaster rides are damaged.

It's NORMAL human behavior.

Now that we've addressed the theory, let's discuss the practice on what really happens infield.

The thing about the theory is that it isn't absolute. It doesn't happen 100% of the time. There are exceptions. Whether the exceptions are 20% or 10% or even lesser, I don't know. But here's the fact: when you show interest in a girl and she pulls back so you'll chase more, you can in fact, pull back, ignore the girl and then let it hang. After two weeks or maybe a month, the girl ends up chasing you again when you stopped chasing.

With those realities, what do I do infield?

Well, when a girl I like shows interest, I immediately show interest to isolate her. I ask her at once for an instadate or to hangout. If she belongs to the 80% to 90% of girls who love to push-pull, she'll play hard to get. Fine. I'll ignore this girl then from that point forward.

So what about the 10% to 20% of girls who don't play hard to get? Easy. I get them on an instadate and then we hangout. Simple.

Now, after a few weeks, the girls who tried to play hard to get are now chasing again. So what do I do? Well, I ask them out for the second time to hangout. If they turn me down, I ignore them again and sarge other girls.

I have a three strike rule though. If a girl turns me down three times. I withdraw all kinds of attention from her. You've got to respect a girl's decision if she doesn't want to hangout with you. You have no right to stalk her nor pester her with repeated invitations to hangout. Be human and keep the sarging legal and civil. I think this is a basic principle that all members of this community should adhere to.

You've got to realize though that this is day game and propinquity is working double time for me. I see these girls every day at the university. Since we have several colleges and several thousands of these girls, it doesn't really matter when several hundred girls or so play hard to get.

The few girls who don't play hard to get (the first, second or third times), well, we have lots of fun. : )

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It's not rocket science.

JackZero gave a great resolution over it, which is "Uncertainty creates attraction". And it does. Guys who prematurely vomit their feelings (aka telling her how you feel) will in 90% of the cases do it out of desperation, as a last resort, or because they simply have no clue on how to talk to women. In doing so they eliminate any kind of uncertainty. And we all know how that ends.

Cat string is also a good way of calling it. If the string presents no challenge (telling her how you feel), the cat loses interest. If the string is too far away (being a hard to get tryhard) the cat also loses interest.
Most guys represent the no challenge camp. Then they hear about push-pull and do a complete 180, crashing right into the tryhard camp.

This is exactly why acting a certain way because someone said so will never get you consistent results, because you're basing your actions on all the wrong reasons.

This problem is solved by simply not giving people more than they deserve. Don't put her on a pedestal. Don't treat her like she's the best thing that ever happened to you after 1 date. Don't look at her as if she's your only ticket to happy land.

That being said, always show interest. Teasing her, challenging her, being playful, flirting are ways of showing interest. Showing interest is not what turns them off. Whether or not they get turned on or off depends entirely on your vibe.
You don't want to portray a thirsty, you're my only option vibe.

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