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I am not sure if "stubborn" is the right word...I am pretty sure it is not but I don't know the right word.
but here is the thing. Whenever I tell myself to do something, I do the opposite.
Example: sometimes i do interpreting for medical appointments. so I am supposed to be professional. I tell myself "don't talk to that girl. Here, you're supposed to be professional. don't talk to her. don't talk to her" but then I go and talk to her and start flirting with her.
in situations that I should talk to a girl, I won't do it.
another example: I did a translation for this woman and I did it wrong and it got rejected. 100% my fault. it was a huge hassle for her because she picked it up again and I accidentally attached the wrong thing and it got rejected again. The third time she comes, I wanted to look sorry because I didnt want her to think I am taking her situation lightly. so I tell myself "dont smile. dont smile" but as soon as she comes in, I have the biggest smile on my face, like almost laughing.
in summary: if I tell myself to do something, I won't do it. If I tell myself to not do something, I do it.
Is it just me or is everyone like this?
Maybe you just do what you want to do, not that people are necessarily "stubborn".
I would assume that the fact that you have to tell yourself you "Should" or "Shouldn't" do something, is evidence that you are fighting your natural urge to do it. So you just default to the primary behavior that made you start telling yourself you should do the opposite.
Basically, you are just trying to convince yourself to do the opposite of what you want, but what you WANT, tends to win.
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