I am a man in my early twenties who happen to look pretty good. I often get compliments for my appearance, and girls often start dancing with me when I'm at a club.

The thing is, I am completely useless at progressing any further than dancing. Of course I (in many cases) want to get more intimate with the girl, but every time I want to try progressing, it's like I just freeze up and can't do it. Sometimes the girl will take the initiative, and then it's not a problem.

Just last saturday, a girl who I've met before (work-related) approached me on the dancefloor, gave me a hug, and started dancing with me, showing clear interest in me. The usual thing happened; we danced for a while, and then we simply stopped, since it wasn't really leading anywhere.

I'm guessing this problem has come up since I have been in a relationship for a long time of my life (pretty much my entire "adulthood") which ended about a year ago. I am however completely over this (so that hasn't got anything to do with the problem), and I think the problem lies more in me not having a lot of experience with other girls.

Every time I've thought about this issue, I feel like it shouldn't be a problem, and I tell myself I can do it next time. But it just doesn't happen. I'm starting to get pretty desperate, and I'm sick and tired of my own behaviour. Could anyone give me some tips/pointers of what I could do? Preferebly some sort of tips that will make it feel more natural for me to actually make it lead somewhere.

I love dancing because it is no natural to escalate with her. There are ways you could escalate to a kiss on the dancefloor, like slowly getting closer to her, holding eye contact and going for the kiss. You don't want to talk much while your dancing as it will break state, but you could do short qualifiers. After the song ends, you could lead her off the dancefloor to somewhere more quieter and get isolation by saying, "Hey, it's too loud here, let's go over here for a second." and lead her by the wrist and assume she will follow. Qualify, reward and escalate.

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The more you don't do it the harder it will feel to break out of the shell.

There's no magic secret OP, you simply have to do it. Escalate physically.

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You're already dancing with her... Which, if you're doing it properly, should be pretty sexual as it is. So how much harder do you need to really push? The vibe is already there. Just get the two of you alone.

Understand that some girls just want to dance. So even though it might seem like she wants to fuck, she only wants to grind on your cock for a little bit. (Which isn't all bad...)

You can push with these girls and be persistent for some time but just beware that there are some girls out there who really just want to dance. Don't waste too much time trying to fuck the ones that aren't sexually available to you.

If she is asking u to grind in to her while you are dancing then you are in a good spot.

I'll tell you how to escalate while dancing. Because you don't just go in for a kiss right away - that's stupid advice.

When you receive good body language from her and want to escalate take her by her hands - dance and enjoy it. She will also. Then when you want to escalate further pull her closer. Dance a bit. Spin her around (women LOVE that), nuzzle the back of her neck (don't kiss it yet). If she's enjoying your embrace and she's pressing her body against yours then pull her close and do what feels right (kiss her, kiss her next, run your hands down her hips, etc.)

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