I'm finding myself having this conversation a lot:

Her: "You're married?!?!?!?"

Me: "No, I'm separated."

Her: "Same thing!!!! I won't help you cheat on your wife."

Admittedly, my situation is more complicated than the average separation (we can't get a divorce yet and it will be a long time before I can even move out of the house - long story, just trust me I'm stuck here), but still, come on, if a marriage is over it's over. What is their problem???

Their problem is your current residence. You bring home a date and it's, "date meet ex wife, ex wife meet date (proceed to bedroom)". Or you could make it really awkward for your date and hang out, just the three of you in the lounge room.

The chick your trying to mack doesn't know the intentions of the wife. She could be trying to get back with you for all she knows. You could try to convince her till your blue in the face, she won't believe you. What she definitely won't do is ask your ex wife if she can fuck you. Your situation is to much of a head fuck to contemplate right now. Theirs plenty of other male suitors without the baggage

Until you move it stays the same. You could try just saying your separated and try her place of residence and not bring up the song and dance about still living with your ex wife.

Even when I'm out of town on a business trip and all she has to see is my hotel room (ex wife 1000+ miles away) I get this attitude. I usually get it long before they even ask about the living situation. I try not to bring it up, but when they ask I don't like to lie and I don't want to LEARN to like to lie.

Do I just move on to the next girl when I encounter this attitude? Is there a way to put a positive spin on it?

I don't know why it continuously happens.

Is your state a christian conservative one? Are you telling them your separated or separating?

I'd tell them you guys separated last year, which isn't lying. Last year could mean 3 months or 10. If it's continuously causing a problem make it one of the last topics in your topic of conversation.

Just get them flirting and having a good time and if they ask if your single, you are. Refer to her as your ex wife if you aren't already, i don't know.

If you've flirted with them and their hooked it really shouldn't happen continuously one would think.

Try this at least six times:

Her: "You're married?!?!?!?"

You: "Yep. Let's go over there./Let's grab some coffee at my hotel."

Let me know when it works for you. Worked for me a lot of times. It might work for you.

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You're still married. AND you live with your wife. Thats alot of complication.

OP, I just had a thought on what leads girls you're sarging to the point of, "You're married?"

Are you bringing up your conversational threads with women to serious personal topics about you or are you focusing on light, fun topics and topics that are mostly about her? Somehow, we need a baseline to fix this sticking point of yours.

If you can provide more details, then that would help.

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Thanks. Give me some time to compile actionable data and I'll be back.

Just fix your situation and stop looking for a workaround. The rest of the world doesn't care if it's complicated.

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