Hi, ok long story short. Met a girl ( actually i started a few threads back). K closed after she resisted me like crazy. Anyway on xmas eve, we went out for a nice dinner and I invited her back to my place. She said no sex if she came over. I escalated, we fucked. I made her come twice and I came twice myself. It was a good phase. She said she had never cummed before (she was out from a 6 years relationship) so naturally I felt quite good. And i think cause she lmr-ed me like crazy and I made her want it more than me with the escalation.

So on new year's eve, i brought her back to my place again. We fucked , I came thrice. She didnt come at all. Its not like I didnt pay attention to her but its more like i couldnt be bothered to foreplay as much as the first time? I just fucked/sleep for hours and went 3 rounds. She didnt even come once.

So i was texting her one night and I wanted to make her think about sex we had so I asked her which night do you prefer the xmas or the nye night? She said which part , if its the sex part than xmas is better if its about the date then nye is better. Then she followed up by saying "Grr..why isit always about sex with you?"

So i brushed off the qn and said why christmas was better (though it was pretty obvious) but i just wanna get her thinking about us having sex. She then said sex is not important to me in a relationship. Its like only 10% of the relationship to me.

I said, Im not saying its the only thing i care about. I just want to know how it can be better. Of course a relationship is more than just having sex. Its just part and parcel.

She asked " Can you do without it?"
I said " It depends if you're using it as a position of power to withdraw sex or cause you're sick."
"At our current phase of a rship."
"You asking metophorically or for real."
"for real."
"So youre telling me you dont wanna have sex cause we're not officially tgt?"
"Its like being friends w benefits."
"do you think i see you that way?"
"im not forcing you to take me as your gf ut seems like the sequence is wrong and i dont know any other way to bring this up"
"how different are we from a couple other than name wise."
"not much of a difference i know but except we dont know each other well enough."
"so what im hearing is you think we're not ready to be a couple and we shouldnt have sex anymore?"
"let me put it this way. I enjoy the sex but if we are doing it before we're officially tgt i will keep wondering and get confused."
"so youre saying youre unsure of how i feel for you?"
"yes. and i dont want to force it out of you and not by saying if we're not tgt we cant have sex."
"are you ready to be in a committed relationship?"
"I think its too soon. You think you are?" (FUCK ME SERIOUSLY)
"I cant see a reason why im not" ( I KNOW I HAVE GIVEN HER THE POWER.)
"So the reason you havent asked cause you think im not ready yet right? Afterall I admit I wanted the sex more than you. So i was struggling to bring this up."
"Ok. So what am I hearing is no more sex because we are not a couple?"
"Idk how to answer this. If we havent done it in the first place the answer is yes. But now we did it, i dont know how to answer you. Im not denying you sex now. I just dont know how to put it."
"Ok understood. Im gonna bathe. Talk later."


Where do i go from here? I want her as my girlfriend. But I dont know what the fuck is she thinking. Should like I be cold to her or something? I thought we were in a good place and shes making this very weird. I wont get to fuck her again anytime soon as she's going on a holiday.

How to proceed. Please advice.

You really don't get what she's telling you? Just put it this way, the ball is in your court for doing whatever it is you want. Just stop acting weird.

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Long story short?

Jesus Christ man... Can't word this nicely right now but damn... Sometimes just shut the fuck up. You really put yourself in your own hole

Lol way to talk yourself to death OP.

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I didn't read the conversation you had with her after the first response, because it wasn't necessary. You were already sucked in by that point and that was your mistake. You do not have to participate in her world of confusion for you to progress this into a relationship. You're the one that is suppose to be leading.

Her: " Can you do without it?"

Me: Lol I'm not having this conversation, especially not over text"

End of story.

There are different names for it, some call it a shit test, others call it something else, but you did not have to participate in it. You could of sidestepped it and keep leading the relationship in the direction that you want it to go in.

Are you willing to do without sex? If yes, why? And in that event that is something you would want to discuss in person. Text conversation can lead to too many misunderstandings. You're not setting yourself up properly when you do that. When a girl gets emotional over text I'll either tell her to meet me or call me depending on what I'm doing, but I never address shit like that through text. It can be interpreted too many different ways.

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