hey, firstly i apologies if this is a stupid question to ask here. basically im looking fir some advice. ya see im 5ft 3 and i have trouble dealing with taller guys. tonight i was out and i saw an attractive girl and started dancing with her, all of a sudden im surrounded by taller guys pushing me away. i do nit know how to deal with this and my feeling is that they don't like the fact that a smaller unattractive guy is dancing with an attractive girl and do everything in their power to get me away from her. tonight i just laughed it off and started talking to someone else and tried to have the best night i could possibly have by having fun.

so my question is this. what advice would you give to deal with taller guys coming in and just trying to push you away from the girl you are talking and or dancing with?

Thanks in advance

When you have a moment with a girl, you suck them into your bubble. Everything outside the bubble is invisible, it's just you and her. You can then simply isolate her and sit down or perhaps get some fresh air outside.

I highly doubt those guys are physically picking you up and dropping you in the corner.

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What Dragula said is pretty much what needs to happen, but if you must act then the less the better. You just need to be strong. You are the one with the attractive girl. You have the highest value. The amogs are trying to undermine it. By staying cool and unreactive or even just giving a 'guys, do u mind?', anything they do just makes their social value plummet. The girl is with you, and some bigger guy coming in a muscling you around isnt gonna make her change her mind and leave with him, because life isnt a 1980's teen movie.

this has happened to me before. but no they just pushed me away and one of the dudes grabbed me and started dancing mockingly buy grabbing my arms and into sort of tango thing. all i did was laugh it off and went to talk to someone else. i saw the girl again later and approached her and was shood away as she hid behind one of the guys again who mockingly dance about me. with that rejection i just laughed it off and spoke to my friends.

i think its down to the lack of confidence i have to deal with the situation and hooking a girl in properly. even when i was talking to a girl earlier in the night i felt she was interested at first but the interested was loss because i didn't know how to keep the interaction going forward and i think a friend helped put her off me without meaning to by telling her it takes time to get used to me. him saying that felt a little patronizing. again i didn't know how to respond by him saying that.

now thinking abut it my sticking point are getting a girl engaged and keeping an interaction going.

thanks. i didnt get a chance to react as they done it quickly lol a guy started dancing around mockingly and then grabbed me in a tango sort of thing and forcefully dancing with me to get me away from her. i just laughed it off and spoke to someone else. later on in the night i approached her again and was shood away as she went behind one of the guys who where mockingly danced with me.

in replying to Dragula's i think i have a problem with getting a girl engaged in an interaction and moving it forward.

If the girl was engaged and transfixed by you, I don't get why this would happen:
It is really hard to tell by brief report. For all you know, she could of met this guys before you met her and had a moment with one another, maybe she gave the 'save me!' facial expression to one of these guys that you were unaware of. Also this kinda shit has happened to me like 2/3 times in my 7 years of being involved with pick up...

However it happens less when you have your shit together and more so when you're trying hard.

Let me tell you this though, if this doesn't happen the majority of the time you're out. It isn't a sticking point really, it's just one of those shit happens moments that you just need to accept. Or you can get huge in the gym and look intimidating as fuck which is more effort than it's worth

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i was meaning when i wrote in the last comment about talking to a girl. i find it hard to keep the girl interested and engaged in conversation.
thinking back the girl most likely knew the guys but when i was dancing with her she was on her own and i gave my hand and she took it and span her and just dancing with her and the next thing these guys where all over me
this usually happens when i start dancing with an attractive girl or with her in general. but doesn't happen all the time. one time i just danced with a woman who never left me on the dance floor even though guys came up to her left, right and center trying to get her to dance with them and she never budged and came closer to me. i just thought this was down to luck.

im still new and only done this for a year. ive improved a little i feel but could have improved more. im still trying to figure out what works for me and what doesn't.
thinking back the girl most likely knew the guys but when i was dancing with her she was on her own and i gave my hand and she took it and span her and just dancing with her and the next thing these guys where all over me
Let me tell you this though, if this doesn't happen the majority of the time you're out. It isn't a sticking point really, it's just one of those shit happens moments that you just need to accept. Or you can get huge in the gym and look intimidating as fuck which is more effort than it's worth[/quote][/quote]

this usually happens when i start dancing with an attractive girl or with her in general. but doesn't happen all the time. one time i just danced with a woman who never left me on the dance floor even though guys came up to her left, right and center trying to get her to dance with them and she never budged and came closer to me. i just thought this was down to luck.

im still new and only done this for a year. ive improved a little i feel but could have improved more. im still trying to figure out what works for me and what doesn't.