Hi guys - a general thought here. I run a Meetup group. Obviously, that means I meet everyone who joins. Also obviously, I'd like to date more than one of the girls in the group. Question is, how do I do that without it being super-awkward? Remember, I'm gonna see them again and again and I'm gonna be trying to date other girls in the group.

Any ideas would be helpful. I guess I'm thinking I should project a certain way of acting, so that girls don't mind if I date anyone else from the same group.

Really wanna hear your thoughts.

AJ

Be playful and fun and escalate on everyone of them. Friendzone everyone BUT ESCALATE on everyone. LOL.

Next, don't ask them out on a date. NEVER. Instead, ask each girl you want to do activities with you from one place to another then isolate in your home.

Once you have isolated ONE girl in your home, fuck her REALLY good. Girls kiss and tell BUT you should not. Keep an image that you don't kiss and tell and that you can keep a secret. You'll know that you got RAVE reviews when other girls in the group tell you (typically through subtle hints) that they want to sleepover your place.

The keys really are:

1. You're playful and fun but not boyfriend material.

2. You fuck girls really good.

3. You can keep a secret.

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Yes that's the right approach in theory, but we all know theory is not always what happens in real life. I've posted and had several group experiences; since you're dealing with more people, there are more dynamics that can cause blow out. Depending on the group this will be hard (not impossible). You're going to need this girls to be pretty sexually open... Women will be able to tell from your interaction with girls you've fucked what you've done unless you're just a seduction God and don't give off some sort of cues. I don't know of a girl I've screwed and liked, that I wouldn't be able to stop eye molesting.

Have you even tested any of them for interest yet? What kind of group is this?

hey, cool thoughts guys. really helpful. keeping a secret is gold. i wanna talk more about 2 things -

crisanto… how do i convey i'm not boyfriend material? i always struggle with this, because to many of them i am (like i got a stable job). i also think a lot of the attraction to me is BECAUSE i seem like boyfriend material… i don't seem like some of the other guys in the group, cos i'm older, dress better etc. How do i flip this script?

masrerm1ne… yeah, its the dynamics i'm worried about.

some more details… it's a travel meet up group, just a place where a bunch of us meet every few weeks, maybe listen to a talk or share experiences about travel. the group changes each time. sometime you get regulars, sometimes not. people come with friends or they hear about it from people who came.

some immediate problems:
---- i've got to be both friendly and not creepy, cos i'm hosting the group. if people feel uncomfortable, they won't come. so i don't hit on girls i like the first time. but this is a prob, cos sometimes they don't come back. i've been trying to think of a smooth way to stay connected to them - like facebk or something, so i can chat and escalate away from the group.

---- have i tested any for interest? yeah, a few, there's definite interest. my biggest issue is that i'm trying to date MULTIPLE… i feel like if i date 1, she'll act like we're together and it'll blow the whole group. or she'll get mad and cause drama ---- which totally happened before.

(hey, you said you've posted about this, any links bro? pls)

really wanna hear your thoughts. AJ

Man, maybe I just never focused on social circle "game" but yeah, I can imagine dating multiple girls are hard to pull off.

I have no doubt I could keep a secrets, but the girl will probably tell her friends and then eventually get around the group. Women are talkers! , thus, alienating the possibility of having 3 fuck buddies on the same group.

Also, just seems like a full time job, I can't even organise go karting amongst my friends, it's a mare.

I understand that girls in social circles can be hotter, I under that can be less flakey. But if your goal is to sleep with a new girl each time you go out then it's pretty darn limited.

Not for me, especially since I'm a traveler type. New country. No social circles. Just relying on raw game. People say there is a ceiling with cold approach, I disagree, everyone here is capable of taking home an attractive stranger on the same night.

If you're into maintaining relationships. Then I can see social circle being pretty good. But, not for me. I don't don't want to be in a venue, see a stunner. But I can't go approach had because my fuck buddy within in the social circle has chained me down. I have still yet to meet someone that gets better results than me with social circle game.

I have friends, don't get me wrong, but I don't hang out with them to be introduced to girls. But in terms of quantity, there is better ways IMO. I hate bars, I hate clubs, I hate socialising. I go to these places to meet women, not talk about football and work.

It's so slow, not for me. Each to their own.

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If you wanna destroy your social circle then by all means, date multiple girls from the same group.

Otherwise just pick a few out of the billions our there. I know billions are not that much, but hey man..

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RC, thanks for the ideas man, but it's not exactly like that. It's not my social circle, it's a different group. one of the reasons i have the group is that it attaracts the kind of girls i like, open-minded, like to travel, exotic, all that good stuff. so it really works well to bring the kind of girls i like into my life.

i'm just struggling with the other bit. really looking for some help here.

AJ

Been there done that and doing it some more. What theory are you talking about? If the approach is not working for you, try something else!

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It's your mindset.

How old are you? I'm +40 years old and I'm sarging girls within the 18 to 24 maybe 25 year-old age range. As for stability, I've got stable income from rental properties, am not paying any rent on my pad and I have a job that pays above average compared with local standards. I'm also studying at a local university. Most of my classmates don't really have that much money. I live frugally though and get girls to pay for refreshments, fare and so on.

I dress better than most considering tropical country standards. LOL. I can't dress like Dragula though because it's hot in here.

With that said, here's how you become NON-boyfriend material.

1. You flirt and escalate with everyone.

2. You don't DO dates. You hangout.

3. You honestly tell girls that you're NOT ready for a relationship yet because...

3.1 You're not yet ready. Someone broke your heart and you're finding it hard to trust girls again.

3.2 You haven't still found the right girl who will rock your world.

3.3 You don't want to break hearts.

[Choose one that is applicable to you and works really well for you.]

4. Don't treat girls like they're your girlfriends.

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Where are you living homie?

I plan to move to Asia, i do need to master my summer style, my pale ass did not look sexy in Thailand. I looked so average that I wanted to drink bleach

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crisanto, that's gold man, really helps. I think my main prob is with 4 - i definitely do that…lol…that's like my main issue.

you got any links i can read? or is there like a word for this in PUA theory, so i can google more about it. I'm really hungry for knowledge on this subject, cos i face it so much.

I would be interested to know, how many girls are you dating right now?

You meet up every few weeks, and sometimes it's different people and only a few regulars. Sounds like most girls may not even go two times in a row. Why worry? Do the people who go know eachother before they get their, or is it for strangers who want to share stories with other like minded people, so they can make new friends?

I'd like to see you take a baby step and get dating just one for now..

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Rampage, on point, bro. Its my bad for not explaining myself. I'm new to this forum, but I'm not a total newbie…I mean like I haven't done full on game or anything but i've done ok as a natural.

like now, i'm in a relationship --- i'm not so hot on the lingo, lol, that's like a LTR? --- been together say a year. just now i started seeing another girl i know from work. my LTR doesn't know and i feel bad cos i don't like being fake but she's a family friend so it's kind of hard. in fact that's why i wrote this post - i'm not sleeping with the work chick, we've been out twice out of work but see each lots in work. so i wanted to take her to the travel group, cos that's like a place she can see me looking good.

except there's another chick at the travel group i like. again, i don't wanna do nothing until i get my head around how to act, but that's why i was thinking, damn, i don't wanna take the work chick there and then it blows the whole set.

so what crisanto said made tons of sense for me. i'm not gonna take the work chick to the travel group. but i really wanna get more in my head about this not-boyfriend-material.

No more reading for now. Try escalating with every girl in a group while treating them as friends. Do field practice for a week or so and then ask us again when you encounter a brick wall.

Too much information without the legwork is bad for you. Do something first and I'll refer you to one of the masters of multiple relationships around here.

Those items will only make real sense through actual field sarging.

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Thailand is a good choice. You see, when China goes to war, me and my countrymen will fight with just slingshots and pebbles. Thailand at least has better equipment and training. You'll be safer there.

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