Hey PUA community!
I found this forum not long ago and it seems like a good place to post this kind of stuff. So here we go. I started going to raves lately and not once, have i ever been approached by girls. I would get compliments from just guys about my hair, body, outwear. A month or 2 ago, when i was at a rave. This girl passed by me twice, staring and smiling at me. Third time i held eye contact and she walked straight up to me, introducing herself. With my amateur conversation skills, i attempt to hold the conversation. But you all know how that went.. not very well. She stood around as we conversed. Telling me about how this was her first rave. Man she enjoyed asking questions, so with that in mind, i did the same. Later on, she introduced me to her guy friends, 2 extreme introvert that did nothing but stand there and stare. And another 1 that seemed very out going. So i losted her and she ended up being with that 1 guy who was outgoing. I sat down and took a rest, she found me again and decided to approach me asking for my number, gave me a quick kiss and move along. I later found her again in the crowd, she stares at me, walks up and starts dry grinding on me. I didn't not expect that, 100%. So as a "man" i was, i went along with it. The next day i texted her telling her how it was nice meeting her and it was fun...
We continued texting and finally i asked her on a date. First date, we went to a park, walked and conversed,
getting to know each other.
She was older than me and because she owned a car, she was the driver -.-
She's heading off to college soon meanwhile i'm still in highschool.
She went on vacation a few weeks later and before she left, i had told her that i'm interested.
She replied with
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"I'm glad you're saying that, but I am too old. Idk I told myself I wouldn't try
with younger guys because how can it work if I'm at college and having a job
together with everything else?"
Afterwards, I wrote this long ass deep emotional text, attempting to convince her, Changing her mind.
The message sure did hit her, somewhere... On top of that she called me boy... she said that i was very
convincing and we'll talk when she returns. 1 month later she returns and texts me first. Asking how it
was going, but never mentioning the relationship stuff. She took a long time to reply for some odd reason.
One time she haven't responded in 12 hours and so i said
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"I just wanted to let you know that if you're not interested, its fine -
i understand. I would, appreciate a direct answer about how you feel"
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"Damn I'm sorry I feel bad now, I've been driving for awhile so I couldn't
really text , I'm not exactly not interested just not looking for something either"
Quote:
"Thats understandable, i wouldn't want to push you into it either. I hope you'll
find someone out there. But if you ever do change your mind, ill be here. If you would still like to
pursue as friends, thats great."
Quote:
"I would love to...when I'm in ur area I'll randomly stop by! I don't wanna stop
talking. I just don't use my phone often and lately been busy and Ik that's an
excuse and I'm sorry , just I don't really have car privileges and my friends have
been driving so kinda hard to hang out u know"
After this message, she never said anything else. She checks my snapchat stories, likes my instagram
pictures and that's about it. But i'm sure if i ask her something, she'll reply.
Quote:
"I completely understand since we both live completely different lives at the
moment. I hope things don't change between us. And hopefully in the future
circumstance will change. So i can know you better than i did before"
So now i'm thinking, fuck man, i just wasted all that time for nothing.
On top of that, she called me a boy. Would things change if i get a job and car? I mean after all, she did drive me on the date -_-
How should i approach her now? Im just stuck and don't know where to start with her. Should i just wait until i get a car and a job?
CHAT
