Ok so... first off this girl persued me, i asked her out, went on a date, all good, kissing fondling, she made it clear she didnt do one night stands. 2nd date went really well. then went out a 3rd time, its ok, she says this guy came back for a weekend who she had strong feelings for and then left to go back and live in america(this is in the uk) She says she wants to get to know me but wants to take it slow, we agree to meet up again and kiss at the end of the date.
She then asks to meet the week after for coffee, we meet she says shes confused and doesnt want to date at the moment, she says shes going back home to spain for a few weeks and when she gets back it would be nice to meet up. So she goes away and came back last week, we agree to meet up, she invites me to her house for lunch, we sit outside and talk for hours, lots of laughing, i can tell by her body language shes attracted, always laughing, stroking her arm, twiddling hair, facing her whole body towards me. Always finding an excuse to touch me on my arm or face. She cooked me a whole Rissotto and spanish omelete so there must be something there. BUT alls fine until she asks so why did you want to see me? i said i enjoy spending time with you, i wanted to see you again, she then says shes still confused, shes looking for a long relationship, and knows i said before i was going to move away at some point. I asked her why did she wanted to see me, she said she didnt know. So then we talk about lots of personal stuff, she says it would be nice to meet up once a month or so. She asked me first whether id been on any dates since we last met I said i didnt want to lie and said i been on a couple with one girl but was not planning on going on any more. She said she wasnt seeing anyone. So then I say after a while ill go now but she says she'll walk with me. So we walk a bit then hug and say bye. I try to just get out of there but she was insistent she was going to go with me.

I texted her later that day. I really like you and would like to see you again, I'll dont know where I'll be in a few months, i dont know whether I'd have moved. She says, i dont want to waste your time, sorry but its not gonna work,all the best xxx. The next day i send a message I may not be moving for a while soo it would be nice to meet up sometimes for beer just as friends, she says sounds good. The problem is I've been dating other girls but I really fucking like this girl the most! I know she may be using this moving away as an excuse but there is attraction there, I'll continue to meet and date other girls but this girl is not going to leave my head. I dont really want to message her until she's messages me but think she wont maybe not for a while if at all. What the fuck can I do? Its pissing me off how much Ive allowed myself to like her. She knows I'm not needy as she asked me if i had been on dates recently and told her i had but i wanted to see her. So she knows I have options. Im probably naive but any advice that is not criticism is welcome.

She wants a husband, you don't want a wife.

Not compatible. It happens.

The way to get into her panties is to show some longevity that there is potential for a future. but at this point, even if you were to lie to her and tell her what she wants to hear, she will probably know your game...

I met my perfect girl once upon time, but she wanted a fellow religious boyfriend, sex after marriage...Pick up forums will not help this situation.

I texted her 'oh my god, I think Jesus touched me in my dreams last night ' - but she didn't fall for that shit ha

More fish in the sea and all those other cliche's

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First things first..

Never ever say,., " I'm not going to lie.." ever again. Just speak your truth. You don't have to validate it by seeking for approval for being honest. Honest is what you're suppose to be anyway. And if you're meeting with a girl you haven't even been all that intimate with yet, why on earth would you have any objection to her about seeing other women? You should throw that out freely. She would of respected you more if you had.

But anyway,

You have to give the girl space and time man.. I don't know if you did or didn't but from reading this you didn't make any forward escalation moves. You don't have to tell a girl you like her when you show her. Tell her if you want, but only after you've clearly shown it by escalating.

Leave her alone for now man. Let her come to you and if she doesn't.. forget her. It is only your "fear or losing this one" that is causing the attraction you want to not be present. Women aren't good at being needed, they like to NEED. So the fact that you need her for happiness, which is clearly shown because you're making this post would suggest that you aren't yet ready for her.

Keep dating, find yourself again and she'll be there. But so long as you keep pushing, both energetically and physically, she'll keep pulling.

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Eddie Fews- what exactly do you mean by forward escalating moves?

Did you try and kiss her? Did you touch her? Rub her? Or in anyway apply that you had SEXUAL interest. Not just romantic, boyish, intimate interest.. But sexual interest...?

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I tried to kiss her yeah, touched her, teased her for always having sex on the mind as she kept making jokes about porn, when she would talk id look at her a lips a few times until she realises what im doing. I could of done more, we've kissed plenty of times before we both know we're interested in each other sexually, it was just the way she asked, why did you want to see me? we agreed we'd meet up before she went away, she either knew i wanted to meet as friends or wanted to start dating again. I dont need her to be happy, im happy with other girls as well but i have a better time with her than them so need her to be happier, we both talked about 'deep' feelings, how we feel in general about life, lots of philosophical stuff, we both we're saying we both were unhappy in general with life, the facts are we both get on great, laugh lots, connect on emotional level, have attraction for each other, we make each other happier but she says she doesn't want waste my time anymore(which pretty sure means she doesnt want to waste her time anymore) She doesnt want to see me and maybe only once a month if at all. When i tried to kiss her she said, it wasnt a good idea for us to kiss. She says theres no one else, shes been very honest so far. Even if i said i wasnt moving i dont think she'd see me, i thought i had ticked all the boxes but obviously there was something i was doing wrong. That is what is annoying me.