This will be long but its complex....Here is the situation. I'm not a guy who tries to interfere with a solid relationship but there is one girl I cannot figure out. Currently ill be a senior in college. Back when I was a junior in high school I met a girl a grade below me. The first time I hung out with her was the day after she broke up with a bf of 2 years, we cuddled and made out a little and talked for a few weeks. She wanted to date me but the situation ended after a month because the ex was insane. A few months later she had a new bf which she has been with for the last 3 or 4 years.

Now all through high school and my first 2 years of college, we would text and talk a little bit, and I would occasionally see her but we never hung out alone except for one time, I hand not talked to her in 6 months, and we randomly met at a house for a big group movie night and she cuddled up on me.

Now comes last school year. We got to talking a few times every week when school started. Me and her go to the same school but her BF lives 30 miles out of town and she couldn't see him that much so I assume she was bored and that's why we got to talking so much. When we talked she was very open with me about how much she loves her BF and everything they do, but she also says how she was getting bored.

Finally after 2 months of me and her talking a lot she asked if we could hang out. So between late fall and into winter she asked to come to my apartment 5 or 6 times. Every time I would go pick her up and we would either make some dinner or get a movie. When we would watch a movie she would cuddle on me right away and hold me just like I was a BF. We would talk about everything, both personal and sexual. The first time she was over we were cuddling face to face pretty much touching noses, and I said "I would kiss you if you didn't have a boyfriend" She quickly reacted by saying you know we are just friends.

Now comes the next few times we hung out. she would still talk about her BF a lot but We got more and more intimate with what we talked about, she got a lot more cuddly. the last two times we hung out she pulled my shirt off while we were watching a movie, got real touchy over my shorts and was and kissing on my neck, and said she wanted to do things but couldn't cheat on her BF. Every time we hung out she would be the one escalating and initiating most of the things and I would play hard to get because I wasn't sure how I felt about the situation.

To end every night, we would always hang out and cuddle until 2 or 3 in the morning and then she would ask me to take her back to her dorm since she didn't have a car on campus.

To end this long freaking post, today I was talking to her for the first time since February or March. and she said this "Yeah and I'm the opposite of you.. Because I've basically had a boyfriend for all my teen years and I really like my bf and all but I've never had a chance to just be single and enjoy myself. I feel so old when I'm with him because I feel tied down and everyone always asks when him and I are going to get married and I'm just like.. Wait what? I don't even know what I want for sure"

So I'm not trying to break up her relationship at all, but this girl always keeps coming back. I'm not sure what I want to do....what do you guys make of that whole situation????? As a side note I am only 1 of 3 guys she's ever kissed or sort of been with. the other 2 were her two bf's

Oh god, another boyfriend oneitus...

Okay, sorry to sound harsh:
This friendship that you both have is not based on friendship. There is attraction. The problem is, you're pretending that you're a good guy that won't actively end the relationship. But the fact of the matter is, you are being there for her, cuddling and talking. You are basically indirectly trying to destroy the relationship. How would you feel if there was a male 'friend' cuddling your gf every night taking off each other's shirt?

Yeah, exactly.
Listen, you obviously want to fuck her. She wants to fuck you. Stop listening to her words and listen to her actions. She is touching you in a sexual way. Your 2 choices in this situation is:

1) You should of fucked her there and then
2) Lose touch with her

Depending on your morals, up to you, I don't judge. If it was me, I would of fucked her into oblivion, but that's just me. She has sinned already, she is already kissing and touching up guys behind her bf's back, if it isn't you, it will be someone else.

That's it bro. Make a decision. Fuck her or lose contact with her. There is a zero friendship element to this. There is an agenda from both sides. Stop deluding yourselves. If you're gonna do it wrong, then do it right and just boink each other. Let me ask you this:

If she was fat and ugly, would you be her friend and still cuddle her?

I get the feeling you are also afraid to make the move on her and you would fucked her ages ago if you were more competent at pulling the trigger.

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What pebble said.

Pretty much nailed it. You should almost save this to copy it for every guy who comes on here with this same sad ass post.

Either pull the trigger or put the gun down buddy.