Hello everyone! My wife and I have been together for over 10 years and swinging for the past five or so. In this thread, I would like to discuss the dynamics of picking up swingers. I come from a psychology background and have a few seduction skills that bleed over from that (Cold reads, nonverbal cues, IOI, etc). I have also read a few books (The game, mystery method, models, no more mr nice guy, and various body language books).

My first priority is to not reinvent the wheel and find out if anybody already has any resources out there that are along these lines. The closest thing I have found is lessons on how to score threesomes either with your partner & a vanilla or two vanilla together. They aren't swingers, and the dynamic can change pretty drastically.

My second priority, if necessary, is to review each pickup concept/strategy while wearing the lens of non-monogamy, and see if it still applies, if it changes, how, for better, worse, etc. Any help with this would be super appreciated!