Ok so here's my story and it's long and somewhat embarrassing but hopefully you awesome guys can provide good advice for all this.

So in total yes I'm confused about what to do in terms of Woman. I'm a 27 year old male and I've only had a few Girlfriends in my life but that's it. Yes it's embarrassing but it's true. I don't think I'm the best looking either (with all the none response with online dating I'm starting to think I'm not). I'm slightly overweight 6 feet tall but not huge and I have dark hair. I'm currently working on losing weight and wondering how I can dress etc. to look better?

I've never been the best with woman but something happened recently that really put a kink in all of this even more.

I've never had good luck with online dating either(there may be something I'm missing there too probably but I'll get back to that later), anyway I was using Tinder a few months ago and there was a match with this amazingly hot blond 24 year old girl. She in my opinion was at least a 9 or 10. We started talking and eventually decided to meet up for a few drinks. We had a lot of common on our first meetup, even some of the nerdy stuff we both enjoyed a lot of the same movies and video games etc.

At about the third time we met we for lunch etc. we ended up in her room making out on her bed. I actually thought sex was being rushed but she wanted sex even more than I did. Obviously we ended up having sex. From there on out we ended up having a lot of great sex probably a few times a week on average. She even wanted to have unprotected sex but we did the responsible thing first with birth control and STD testing together first.

We spend a lot of time together and we both really seemed to enjoy it. We went camping, went on a trip, went out to eat a lot etc. She definitely seemed like the one. She also confirmed that she thought the world of me and that I was the one for her.

The sex was great, but beyond that I really did care about the girl. We established a few weeks to a month into our relationship that we were officially a couple and we weren't going to see anyone else or cheat on each other etc. A few weeks ago when I'm drunk at her house she starts crying and telling me "there's something I need to tell you".

My ex at the time was going through a lot mind you. One of her pets just died, and she was being overworked at her job etc.

I like any concerned boyfriend asked her what was wrong. She told me about a week prior she cheated on me with one of her coworkers, twice actually with the same guy, and this was right before this coworker just moved away. She told me she was drunk both times and that it meant nothing and that she was extremely sorry.

As you can guess I was pretty upset, but I ended up telling her I would forgive her and she gave me what appeared to be makeup sex that night because it was 3AM and I couldn't go anywhere anyway.

The next morning I ask my bros what I should do. One of them has been in a lot more relationships than I have. He told me to be a fucking man and tell her it's over and to get out of my life. He was definitely probably right, but I told her I'd give her another chance.

We hung out a couple times after this and things went ok. We even had sex a couple more times too. I was thinking that maybe we would get past this. Then about 2 weeks ago she tells me her life is too complicated and she was an introvert and therefore needed time to herself to sort things out. I assumed it was over so I told her Goodbye, but then she tells me she doesn't want to break up with me and she just needed time alone.

As you can guess it felt like I was being punished for giving her another chance. After a week of this bullshit I texted her. She got mad saying I wasn't respecting her time alone and that she felt smothered. Eventually I told her it was over, and there's no relationship here anymore. I told her we could continue to be friends if she wanted. She agreed to being friend but we haven't spoken in well over a week since we decided this. Our relationship lasted about 3 months in total.

As you guys can guess I feel completely played. Now beyond getting laid which I'm not saying would be a bad thing right now since it has been 3 weeks it seems Tinder is largely a pit for potentially insane chicks like this. My friend pointed out to me that our relationship advanced way too quick and I become emotionally invested in it which I did. Since then I've been depressed feeling like I can't get another Girlfriend, and wondering if I can ever talk to a Woman again. I know I'm not sounding very manly here, and I need to grow a pair but this was rough.

I don't know if going on and meeting woman at clubs is more successful and or easier than online dating? I've read some of the pickup techniques on this website and I'm wondering if properly employed if they are better than Tinder? Also I know this is long but what should I be doing differently via dating in general? Lastly, how should I have handled this situation with this last girl? What would you bros have done? What should I focus on doing now?

I really appreciate the advice guys.

Should focus on what it looks like to LOVE yourself, as you wouldn't have remained with this girl and settled for scraps if you truly did. Rather than trying to swing into another relationship half broken and looking externally for somebody to fix you.

So what you're saying is don't try to find someone else until you better your own situation?

Positively.

You do that and you won't be operating from a frame of scarcity, with women and life in general. Opportunities will seemingly just come to you. Learn to love you, stop looking for a woman to connect to yourself through - it will never happen and your identity will just get strung-up into the next person you get involved with. Women too can be addictions just like any drug - well, more the feeling associated with being with one. Not saying you shouldn't feel that high 'falling in love' or whatever you want to call it. Hooking up with other girls right now will only add salt to the wound (they won't be her and u'll just think of her more). Instead let yourself heal. Learn how to truly connect to yourself and I can guarantee you that once you do this won't happen again.

You just had a relationship with a 9ish - 10 and you're worried about being in a relationship again? Give us and yourself a break man.

Sounds to me like one of those fast starts, fast ending situations. Its really no big deal. The average tinder or online relationship turns out this way from what I've heard. The online systems allows both people to be a bit dishonest about who they are. It doesn't necessarily set the stage for an open, honest, and progressive relationship. Not that you can't make it work, because some others are.

To me it sounds like she lost respect for you after you just took her back without any consequence or repercussion. You just accepted her behavior and went on pretending it didn't happen. Whats stopping her from doing it again? And what did you show the consequence would be if she did so? The guy that lets the bully take his lunch money, will continue to the get the lunch money taken. At the very least he would have to report it for it to stop. If he just said "its okay. " The bully would continue enjoying free lunch.

You cared more about this girls hotness and the sex than you did about your own self respect. That would land anyone in this situation. She knew she had you. The chase, the passion, and the thrill was over man.

Dust yourself off. Heal up and you'll be straight. It happens to the best of us.

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Good points. I want to thank everyone here for the help BTW. I will tell you this, on our last text we agreed we'd just be friends. We agreed we don't have to part as enemies and we're still friends on Facebook etc. But of course we haven't spoken.

She also said in her last text to me "sorry about when we met but it is what it is". Because she claims her life issues at the time are what got in the way. I don't know why I think she would become extremely jealous if I got another woman right after all this and this might sound bad, but that may be one of the honest reasons I'm trying to get anther gf right now so soon.

It basically says even despite your slimy Bullshit I still succeeded and round someone else Right away so fuck you. Does that make sense or maybe that's an extremely bad way of looking at this entire situation?

In any case no matter when I deicide to seriously start chasing after chicks again I'm wondering if meeting in person and just talking to random woman in say to day life works better? It seems that you guys on here that are good get way more numbers and response and success getting laid than from this online dating crap anyway.

I've never confidently done that though in terms of meeting women and talking to them randomly on the street so I don't know. My responses online are very limited. Do you think meeting woman irl first is ultimately more successful?

Look up Corey Wayne.... do as he says for a while

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