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Something I’ve noticed of late, literally blown my mind( it wasn’t until I hung around with this female friend of mine a bit more)…. The amount of girls that have an abundance of men/options, even average girls are getting tons of like and attention( I always knew they got more, but its literally nonstop options). My one friend ( she is fairly good looking) could literally have no word of a lie a date for every day of the week, that’s how many guys are hitting her up. She’s constantly on dates, phones always going off.
I feel even though I’m good looking, it’s not enough, it helps initially maybe, but if you don’t have anything to back it up she’ll just go with one of the other 20+ plus options she has.
1) How do I get that level of abundance/options
2) How do I separate my self from the other guys
I have some considerably attractive female friends. The one's online they can get upwards of 50-100 msgs AN HOUR. They get hit on literally every turn as soon as they step foot outside. Its abundance, but it sure as hell ain't QUALITY.
Imagine, if for but a moment that pretty much every male around you give you a provocative look, invitation or sexually valanced comment. Most of the guys making these overtures you are not attracted to, or were attracted to but they came at you in a very weird way (when she sees that cute guy approach her she's thinking "Oh god please don't be a jerk!").
With women it is about making a quality choice in a mate. With men it is more about quantity - and a man can never hope to EVER have as many women flocking to his side UNLESS he's some sort of a celebrity.
How do you separate yourself? By OPENING you. The short of it is learning to love yourself, and that will reflect onto the world, your interactions with others, everything. You still have to stick your neck out there and create as many opportunities as you can.
As guys we're lucky. We are the AGGRESSORS/initiators. We MAKE things happen, for the most part. Ya a woman may bait us into opening her by flicking her hair, taking a longer-than-normal gaze, etc.. but ultimately we are the ones who do the approach, in the vast majority of cases. We generally don't have to worry about getting stalked, beaten, or chastised rudely (some dudes will cuss a girl out for being rejected). We don't have to almost continually let girls down "sorry I'm not interested" - sure it happens sometimes, but its more the exception than the rule. Women have to deal with a lot of awkwardness on an almost daily basis. Really, that must fucking suck. Ya she may seem to have a lot of options but she understands most of them aren't viable options at all. Maybe she goes on that date because she's bored with her life, on the rebound, or just wants her tires pumped for an evening and a free meal perhaps. Whatever.
She's waiting for a guy to sweep her off her feet who isn't fearful of being himself - the guy who just has 'it' - the antithesis of being needy, as most guys are.
TAKE NO PRISONERS: Get rejected. Rejection is a fucking joke. You build an immunity to it after you've stuck your neck out so many times and see it really is not such a big deal - it's not about you, it never was...she doesn't even know you and if she doesn't WANT to get to know you then she's not worth talking to and there's a million other girls out there who will want to get to know you, who you're seriously attracted to and aren't frumps.
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