Ok here goes. I was at a party at the end of Jan. A HB10 Came up to me we started talking and the whole night she never left my side. I played the AFC roll and never hooked up with her that night. After that we talked on the phone almost every night (1st mistake) till mid march, and since I live 70 miles away and work 60 hour weeks we only see each other on weekends. I'm a 34 year old man but for some reason every time we got together we would only kiss I'd get AFC (mistake two) . I would go in for the close and then it would get weird or she would go in for the kiss and something would go wrong. I have even slept at her house a few times when her kid was gone yup she has a kid (mistake 3). She has had me talk to her mom on the phone and her kid knows about me so even though I have not closed the deal with her I kind of thought we were dating. That's the back story. So one weekend we were hanging out and somehow ex's came up and I told her about my last ex who was a whore and cheated on me and was living a 2nd life. I used the word Prostitute cause I think she might have been for real but that's another story. Some how HB10 thought I was talking about her but said nothing to me about it at the time. As dumb luck would have it I was frustrated with trying to close the deal and not so when I left her I flipped her off as a joke. She called me on it and on calling her a prostitute. I told her that I was not calling he a ho but my ex and that the bird flipping was a joke. We got past that she said its all good and we got back to talking every day for about a week. Ok were in real time right now a few weeks later and she will only talk to me every week or so (down from every day) and most of that is text messages. As a matter a fact she just texed me (hay stranger how are you) what the hell am I triping how do I respond to that? I really like this girl (she's 30) but do not know where to take it from here I feel like having the talk with her but feel like that's an AFC move since we have not even had sex and our make out sesions are like the ones I had in 3rd grade am I right. I know this a pick up site and not a relationship site but someone has to have some good advice.

On another note I'm banging a HB7 on the side that I see about 4 times a month and I've gotten down with a new one as of last week but she's crazy and wants a LTR right away so I don't think ill be seeing her again. I just can't stop thinking about the HB10. I know there is hope cause she is still contacting me, how do I staw away from going to the LJBF zone ? Or am I there already and don't know it ? Sorry for the long post but that's where I'm at and hope some of you have been here before or at least know how I can close the deal if at all. Dam she's got it all and if I can't make it a LTR I'd at least like to salvage a few sessions with her to boost the ego.

Im no expert but i'll just add my bit of advice. Dont talk to her about it (the situation), that would just probably fuck everything up. She obviously likes you otherwise she would not have invested so much time (in seeing you) and must see you as BF material, she's at that age where they want to settle down and find the one. And her always texting you shows she's interested. There must be a reason why things havn't progressed if you make out when you meet.
Go for it while you can before things go stale.

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^agree

I'd like to point out an inner game problem. You loose your composure when you have a chance to really hook her because you loose your self-confidence. You have the right stuff, but you're blowing opportunities. You should settle in your mind that unless you give up your current frame, you're going to continue to blow it.

You should look in the mirror before you see her again and remind yourself that you are ALPHA and you're NOT NEEDY. You are POWERFUL and DESERVE an LTR with her. Think positive! Until you change your attitude with her, you'll keep slipping. Forget the past mistakes, and don't count them. Come at the relationship again with a different, better mindset, and you'll go much farther.

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Update:
So I texed her back saying
I'm good.
But I got to let you know I didn't believe in magic till I saw you vanished. (cheese Puff I know) she then hit me a text saying sorry i passed out like an old man (like you)
And that she's been working a lot. I hit her again saying you better be working hard how else are you going to buy me nice things. by the way I got my senior citizen card so I get great deals on bingo and early bird specials so if your not busy this weekend your welcome to tag along.
That was a few hours ago and no reply yet but she is working tonight so she won't till somorrow if I'm lucky. If I don't get a reply by this weekend I'm going to go into a semi freeze out, not call her but talk if she calls and be a bit short. If she text's I'm going to wait a day or so and be cocky funny but short and not ask her out till she asks me out again. If you have any advice to why that sounds like a bad choice feel free to let me know why and other directions I cold take it.

Dam good advice lefty. Lucius thanks for the advice it confirmed a few things for me that were clouded from being on the inside. Another point that one of my friends pointed out that I did not think about was that she may think I'm not intrested in her that brings up a question. If we do have plans this weekend how should I play it. I'm thinking play it layed back at 1st maybe have a few drinks and dinner. Give her signs that I'm into her (touch factor) to see where she's at with her comfort with me. Pop around town a few places then if alls well step it up and see where it goes. Man for some reason I get timid around HB10's so I'm going to lye to myself and pretend like she's a HB6 to calm me down. This is the 1st HB10 I've been around that I like to be around. All of the others were hot but fake and mentaly lame or gold diggers. We will see how this plays out and ill keep you posted and please let me know if you see any flaws in my game or changes I need to make cause as of now this is who I am.