Ok so the other night I was at a club and met this HB 8 and I made sure to disqualify myself early on. I told her that she's really cute but that it was a shame she's not my type. I said this after I felt like we were getting into the friendship zone. I concentrated on building comfort at the beginning rather than after attraction. Nevertheless she seemed to like me and my friend luckily was being a good wingman and occupying her friend's attention. I got her number and told her that the next night I was going to have my friend over for drinks and then go out and asked if she would like to come. She said she would and the next day I called her. She seemed interested in coming and said that she was on her way over. We exchanged a few texts and she kept asking if my friend was over. My friend was running a bit late but I told her that he is on his way and should be here soon (also said not to worry, I won't bite her.... hard). Make a long story short she didn't end up showing up. But when I was at the club she sent me a text saying the following:

"I'm sorry but I won't go anymore. My friend is sick and I'm going with her home, and I'm afraid of your bite just kidding. I hope this doesn't mess up things between us. XO"

after that I just sent a message saying "that's ok. take care of your friend. Maybe next time"

and just left it at that.

the next day (today) I didn't call her. But tomorrow I'm thinking of calling her to ask her if she wants to have sushi with me.

What is the best thing to do in this scenario? I'm screwed up things like this so many times and I would really like to have some help on this...

I wouldn't ask her to go out for sushi. I would keep it simple. Remember she stood you up once she might do it again.

"So how are you going to make it up for standing me up the other night? "

If you do ask her out.

"Hey how about just you and me for sushi. This time you can't use the excuse of your friend being sick "

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yeah. maybe I'll suggest that she take ME out to sushi. That way she'll think I'll only meet with her if she buys...

Alright, I think this is a good example to point out that "Shit Happens". As in sometimes girls genuinly do have problems that occur and prevent you from seeing them.

The way she said, "I hope this doesn't mess up things between us". To me means she really into you, and she's sorry. If I'm wrong about this, she's so much of a lying bitch that, you need to end it, because you are setting yourself up for failure.

Just suggest that you meet up for some sushi. Don't tell her she has to take you out, but don't pay for her either. Play it off as though it didn't bother you and go out with her.

PS For advice on the date, I'd say reinitiate the comfort you created and go kino

ok. but when the topic comes up (and I'm sure it will) of how she didn't make it. I can say something like "you'll just have to make it up to me", but not say exactly what she has to do.

Also, I'm not so good at kino escalation. Do you have any examples or suggestions of kino escalations?

Kino escalation......well the best thing to do is go with the flow. I would say grab her hand when you meet her and pull her into where ever you are going. Be the leader. While holding her hand squeeze it and see if she squeezes back. If she does then you know she's comfertable with you. From there be touchy feely, if she complies after that. If she touchs you back then you are doing good. Another good concept to keep in mind is where you are with her, as in what you are doing. Try and take her some place where you teach her how to do something, you can use kino when showing her. Like ask her if she bowl? If she says she not so good get some friends together going bowling and invite her, show her how to hold a ball.

Physicality is natural. We as human beings want to be touched. If she is in to you, then go for it man.

thanks. Just tried to call her but her phone is on a pay as you go plan and she must be out of credit... Argh!

if her phone doesn't start working today then I guess next time I talk to her I'll have to say that. If it takes too long for her phone to start working then it may be a problem. If too much time passes then she may lose whatever feelings she had towards me. Oh well, nothing I can do about it now...

Your over-analyzing now. Just calm down and give it a day or two. Lol You are thinking to hard

you might be right. It's been a few days now and I tried calling her... phone still out of credit. I'll post what happens (if anything)...

thanks for the advice, but it seems that this chick is a little more immature than I expected. I should've know, she's 18. Well, what happened was last friday I called her up and said that I'll be having some friends over for drinks and then go out afterwards. She said she didn't feel like going out (I noticed that she hung up the phone rather quick, I just assumed it was cause she was watching her credit on her phone).

I didn't call her after that. But the next night I was not in the mood for going out and she called me from a different number. When I answered I just heard a girl's voice say "who is this". So I said "who is this, you're calling me". So she said it was her (I still don't know for sure whether it was actually her or someone else saying it was). But she was talking in a strange way that made me suspect something was up. She asked if I wanted to meet her at a club and I said I don't feel like going out. At which point she just hung up on me.

the next day I sent her a text saying "if that was you who called yesterday then I'm deleting your number. I didn't know you were that immature." I haven't heard back from her since...

So it didn't work out this time. I've been an AFC for a long time, but I'm working on it. I seriously think women in this city are F**ked in the brain. There's even a psychologist that is on the radio every friday and talks to women about how messed up in the head they have become. check him out if you want http://www.danielpackard.com./Radio.html. He's got some really good points in what he says...

Hey there. I wanted to start off by saying good job on getting it as far as you did and your right ... 18 is way to immature unless your like 20.

I am no expert on the technology of a PUA but I have seen so many people fuck things up in one particular way way to many times. There is a difference between acting confident and being confident. You got the chicks number ... she digged you ... it has nothing to do with you but her own lack of self-confidence.

What I fear may have happened is that you put the pussy on a pedestal ... this is a term from swingers which I think is highly important for any gut (PUA or AFC) to learn. You put to much focus on this one girl ... I caught myself doing the same with this chick I am working on (read "meeting up in Vegas ... help" which I posted before yours). The way to overcome this is to have 2 or 3 other women in the pipeline ... then if you screw things up with this 1 girl it doesn't really matter.

Remember ... she is missing out because of her immaturity ... laugh it off and go back to work.

Oh yeah ... one more thing ... she hung up on you when you said you didn't feel like going out because she felt intimidated by going to your house. You might have suggested something else like ... going for ice cream or bowling or something fun and interactive. I would have worded something like this ... "Well lets do something fun ... do you want to get some ice cream or do miniature golf?" It's a multiple choice question as opposed to "Do you want to get ice cream?" which is a yes or no question.

Well, dude I have to say it immature women suck. I'm 18 going on 19 and only sarge women in there 20s. Female immaturity is why I didn't date in high school.

Lol lion_net the pussy on pedastel statement doesn't necessarily apply to this. "Putting the pussy on a pedastel" doesn't mean one-itis. What you described was one-itis. The meaning of "pussy on a pedastel" refers to thinking to much about it. Thats why the statement was formed in 40 Year Old Virgin, because he was over thinking his need to no longer be a virgin. That is a major difference between one-itis. I also don't believe Intigued had one-itis. Because if he did, he wouldn't have deleted the girl's phone number over that. He would have went back to talking to her and trying to keep her in his life.

Intrigued, man I know you are new to this. But you did good. So what you had a mishap with an immature female. Doesn't matter just keeping plugging along. Your doing really good so far, keep it up and pick-up will be as easy as riding a bike for you.