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PostPosted: Sat May 16, 2015 4:53 pm 
Been dating this girl since February, and she's had sky-high interest. She's a virgin (only kissed 1 or 2 guys, haven't gone past kissing with anyone but me), good girl, always listen to her parents type. However, she's extremely shy about sex. Since we started dating, we've only done handjobs and fingering. I've tried to get her to blow me pretty much every week, but she always says she doesn't want to and doesn't give much explanation even when I ask her to clarify. It'd make me a little mad, but I'd continue like nothing happened and take the handjob. I can understand if she's not comfortable with giving a blowjob, but my problem is that she doesn't really clarify what makes her uncomfortable about it. If she clarifies, I could help her work through her discomfort. When I finger her, she usually says she's not wet enough. She's also very tight, to the point where I can't even fit in a second finger. Keep in mind I usually do a lot of foreplay (neck kissing, breast play, etc.) before trying to get a bj or fingering her.

Long story short, I ended up cheating on her (got a bj from another girl), and she didn't want to break up with me. Three weeks later, I got the same thing with her saying that she's uncomfortable with giving a bj blah blah. In the past, I wouldn't get mad over it, but I kind of did tonight. It's been three months of just handjobs and no attempt on her part to try and get over her discomfort. After I came from the handjob I was pretty annoyed at her, and she could tell. I was uninterested in a lot of the things she said and was being snappy at her. She asked "Is there something wrong?" "Why are you being so unresponsive?". I just answered her questions by saying I was fine.

The thing is though, outside of the bedroom we get along very well and are both very happy with each other. The only thing she really complains about is that she wants to talk me more. Any advice?


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I don't have time to respond, but I wrote this to a forum member about his virgin girlfriend in the past, and I figured there is a chance you can take a couple thing from it. She wanted to wait until marriage..

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My first "real" girlfriend ever was a virgin and was determined to wait until marriage. She had a boyfriend of 3 years before me, some foot ball prodigy and he couldn't crack through. She was a senior in high school and I was a sophomore. It took me 2 months, but I regretted every minute of it. Our relationship had become about me trying to get her to have sex with me and her trying to get me to wait. That was all that was taking place after a while, so once I got it. What our relationship was built upon was no longer there. She got super attached, and I became super detached. I left her, she was crushed, and I ended up feeling the pain of what I did to her a year later resulting me in writing a long as apology letter. A genuine sorry. I didn't want anything from her, I just felt bad because I destroyed. She was top 3 most popular girls in school, and the tide of it all changed once it was over.

I say all that to say, be careful what you wish for. I personally wouldn't take a girls virginity unless I have real interest in being with them long term. Because if she's the type that wants to hold onto it. And she's been successful up until this point, she will hold on to whoever she gives it to just as tightly. And that may not be what you want.

I won't tell you what I did, because I can be very manipulative.. To a fault. But I will recommend you being patient. Getting her horny probably isn't going to cut it for the first run. She has to "love" you. Like she really has to feel it. If you can figure out how to make that happen.. She'll do anything for you.

Give her what she wants.. (not marriage),give her what she wants emotionally, give it relentlessly and she'll pretty much do anything for you. I had that girl giving me money and being my personal chauffeur, I did that to several women in the past but I've learned my lesson. We reap what we sow. So be careful.

These are some of the things i'll never write about on the forums. Because its information that could harm if in the hands of the irresponsible. They type of people with knowledge on how to tolerate the level of energy a woman will be giving you once she loves you to that level. Newbies will become easily repulsed by it and leave women crushed. And I don't want to have anything to do with that.
If you have any questions beyond this let me know and I'll answer when I get a moment.

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