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In short buddy,
Like thousands of other guys who are already posted topics expressing this exact same emotion you've began to obsess over her. When you obsess over a girl you begin planning for her to be in your life, and when you do this and they don't react in the way you had it pictured in your mind you become compulsive and to CONTROL them so that you will not be met with this disappointment again. You don't actually like the girl, because if you did you would be open to letting her be. You want to POSSESS her. And love is not possession. We can only possess things without free will.
Men have to learn to take your dealings with women one day at a time. A woman will naturally prompt you for plans of a future with her. SO when you begin to do it, in too much of a hurry emotionally, you are replacing the position that she enjoys to play in the relationship. You're becoming emotional and expecting her to BE THERE for your emotional needs. But that is what SHE WANTS, men have to figure out how they have become the ones in which desire that which women once desired from them.
Its oneitis. Mild oneitis, but one the road to becoming full blown oneitis unless you can get your mind in order. Scarp all the future plans and scrap the gift for now. Pull back, let her come to you a bit so that you can restore balance in the relationship. Pull for as long as it takes. Giving into to the desire to weakly reach out more than you should will further disrupt the balance you're seeking to restore the path to a successful relationship.
I do like her ,but my head is overthinking everything..the main one is why it is so hard to get to see her again.I have found a nice Lithuanian girl to take my mind of her for a bit
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I have been getting on very well with a girl i met online. We have chatted on the phone/SPAM for 2 or 3 hours sometimes that was a month before i met her.We met and we really have been getting on well.She even has opened up to me and told me things that some of her closest friends don't even know(something that i seem to be able to do all the time) we have now met 4 times and the last 2 weren't for very long.Most days i would get a first morning text then the last 2 weeks the calls and texts have almost come to a standstill. I have been messaging some other girls to take my mind off it but its not working. I think the world of her and just the other day she felt the same.Her birthday is this weekend and i have made her a mix cd of songs that relate to her,i also said i would take her away for the weekend next month , and she should check her diary she said she would and i had to remind her 3 times ,the third time she freaked out and said i was pressuring her ....She doesn't want to label things just yet,I have made the mistake of saying that i am ok taking things really slow and i think she has become scared that things went very fast at the start.The other thing is she has told me she suffers anxiety and depression and takes tablets for this so i think this may also have an effect on things.I have become a nervous wreck now because im doubting myself and she is having a big effect on me. If you want more info just ask Thanks for your help in advace
