I stole this from another post I commented on. I think it will help you out:
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You can change all this but you have to work on yourself, your inner game. One very important thing you have to do is, you have to learn to not care. Not care if she or any girl, doesn't reply. Not care what you say -you want to keep your thoughts words and actions aligned- and say what you think. Whatever the first thing that you think you should say, say it. It gives the girl a chance to experience the real you!
It's like when you step on a lego in the middle of the night. Some people just don't say anything, but they are saying "Aw f*ck" in their heads. Other people however just say "Aw f*ck" because they have their thoughts words and actions aligned. You want to be like that! The sooner that you do not care, the sooner you will rid yourself from that "I am needy" mentality. This sadly doesn't happen over night.
Oh and when you said:
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being nice to please everyone
You have to realize that is not going to happen. There is no way you can please everyone. When have you ever met anyone that everyone (and I mean everyone) has liked? Never. Not everyone likes the President or even God or RSD.
With this mentality I'm telling you about, you have to accept people will love you, and people will hate you. That's just the way the world is. If you see a girl that has a yellow dress and you think to yourself "You look like a god damn banana" and you tell her that, she might love you for that remark or hate you for that remark. You just have to roll with it and not care. Being a natural is giving everyone the real you! By being able to tell people what you think, no holding back!
"There is truth in beauty and beauty in truth." -The Alabaster Girl
^Think about that. Hope this helps. Also if you want more further info on this, I recommend you read the book The Power of Now or PM me. You got this.