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I was talking to this girl for a while (3 months) and she seemed to like me. Always asking me to do things with her, introduced me to her friends and mom. I felt like I was making good progress. she wouldn't even allow other girls to talk to me without making it seem like we were together. One time I even stood out on a blizzard holding her and talking while waiting for her bus. I noticed I never made it official. i asked her to hang out. It was finals so we hung out after. When we hung out I asked her out and she dropped the bomb she starting dating a guy a week earlier. I flipped out on her I was so pissed. I called her a stupid fucking bitch and all that. I have never been so mad. I rarely ever get mad at all. (Just thinking of the situation still gets me pissed).

this was at the end of the school year and I kind of went into hermit mode. Shut out everyone one and just stayed in the house playing video game. I did this all until the end of the next school year end at some points even breaking down to crying in the middle of class because I felt like a failure. At some point I realized I had no reason to be mad at her. She found someone that made her happy and unfortunately it made me unhappy. So I apologized to her for the things I said And she responds by saying that she thought I only liked her as a friend...when I made it clear what it was and she played along.

So anyway I vowed to never allow another girl have so much control over my feelings like that. Today she is still with the guy and I still haven't gotten a girl and I'm still a little frustrated karma hasn't come into play yet. I can't lie this situation did really scar me to the point where I have trouble trusting anyone which makes it hard to have any relationships but that's part of the reason I'm here.

What was your worse?

Hey man,

Cool honest post.

Mine was just after leaving high school, I met this girl at work who was seriously hot, I managed to get her number and we kind of dated for a while but i let myself get in too deep, i didn't play it cool at all, came on too strong asking where it was going etc, like a total pussy! Anyway basically she went away on a trip and barely spoke to me when she came back and I kept chasing, again like a total pussy, after a while of this is just kind of hit me how stupid i was being, and like you I decided that sort of crap would never happen to me again.

Shortly after that I came across the game and read it and totally changed everything about how i was with women, I changed and improved in a matter of weeks, i went from that to having one night stands nearly every weekend, it was crazy.

I also started up university of pickup (the link in my sig) to try and pass the knowledge on so other guys wouldn't have to go through that kind of thing.

If you learn from your mistakes its not a failure!

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A woman has never played me my friend.

I've simply played myself.

Guys have to realize that the women in our lives are only responding to the leadership we are putting forth. IF we create the vibe for seduction, seduction is what we will get. If we create the vibe for her to go dating someone else that is what we will get.

So you were never mad at the girl you were simply mad at yourself for not being an effective leader.

You can get mad at a fish for swimming. Thats what fish do, they swim. And women go dating other men when we don't grab the bull by the horns and make it clear that we're interested. Its always our fault.

So now you want guys to tell you their greatest failure stories so you feel better? Give me a break. Man up buddy, shut off the xbox and start introducing yourself to new women. Your reaction to this situation is clearlly the reason why you're in the situation in the first place. That type of attitude; that type of denial of responsibility is so unattractive and off putting to women. I'd throw the xbox away or give it to a friend until I got my shit straight if i were you. You have to figure out whats most important to you.

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Do yourself (and me for fucks sake...) a favor.... don't EVER be a little bitch like that again.

This happened like 2-3 years Ago. I was just sharing my story and hoping others would too so guys could come and see it happens to us all and it's not that serious.

And I don't play xbox but good try.

Exactly. I spent a long time blaming her for the whole thing. then one day I realized yeah she played me but I allowed myself to be played. Lesson learned and on to the next

lmfao

I don't care if its a sega dream cast. Give the shit away and make improvements. The system doesn't change the lack of high attraction in your attitude. Its thoroughly communicated on the internet.

But learn the hard way. Some guys can't handle the tough love. lol

Peace bro.

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You just got very good advices from Eddie and Magik OP. Stop being in denial and work on being more masculine. Take charge of your fucking life. Sell all of your fucking video games, workout in the gym and learn Muay Thai, Kyokushin, Kudo or Brazilian Jiujitsu.

When you've become manlier you won't be crying like a bitch and attract women.

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Let me re-iterate. This happened 2-3 years ago and i learned a lesson from it. What am i in denial about? And I don't have a video game.

I dont see a problem with sharing a story that you learned a lesson from. Nothing wrong with learning from your past...Or am i just being trolled?

The problem is you don't want to fix the problem which still remains a problem after 2-3 years.

If we wanted a story, we don't fucking want your drama sob story. I prefer a story about the upcoming Mayweather-Pacquiao fight.

You're a fucking man. Be a man and NOT a sobbing, crying bitch who wants to tell grown up men a sob story.

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You can take it as a sob story but i see it as a learning experience. And i'm confused as to what you think the remaining problem is?

In my opinion a real man should be able to look back at the mistakes he made and learn from them. To remember how he felt at that time so he remembers he never wants to feel like that again. If he tells the story and other guys learn from the mistakes he made before they make them then even better.

You seem to be more in your feelings about me telling the story then i was during the story.

You didn't get played. You just failed to physically escalate on a girl who gave you plenty of chances to make a move over a number of months, which included hours upon hours of alone time with her. You just couldn't pull the trigger due to lack of confidence.

She did nothing wrong, so you had no right to call her a fucking bitch. You say it was years ago, but you are clearly still butt-hurt over it, because you mention the fact she is still with the same guy now.

Learn from this. Always state your intent and sexual interest from Day One. Don't chill in the friend zone.

This is the problem they are talking about.

You haven't realized yet that your actions are still being controlled by women. also:
This is also a problem. You think this is a strength but it's not it's actually you still basing your reality out of this negative event.

What people don't understand about karma is that it is a cause and effect evolutionary process. Not just pure do good and good comes to you.

Right now you have some unresolved negative belief systems about women, and you relate every woman you meet to that girl, and it was not even the girls fault. It was your fault. That's what they are calling denial.

Anyway, the worse experience I had with a girl playing me was in HS before I learned the game. I was a senior and my brother had a gf who's sister was a freshman at my school. I made her my GF then took her virginity. I thought that by doing so I had the girl tied to me for life. She got curious about other guys because back then I the haters had the upper hand on me because I wouldn't stand up for myself properly. Guy who where jealous I had this chick talked shit about me to her behind my back and tried to pick fights with me in front of he when I called them out. Causing big ass scenes, and me not wanting to get suspended (and slightly afraid) I didn't take a swing on them.

Then she started letting dudes put their arms around her in front of me, and I wouldn't say anything about it.

She started becoming cold and withdrawn. I could tell something was wrong but (not knowing this stuff) I had no clue. Then she didn't show up to meet me in the spot I let her at in the morning at school every day. (I used to get there first and wait like a little lap dog.)

She did this a few more times and I got fed up and stopped going.

Then she skipped school one day.

No one could find her for like 2 days.

Everyone was all worried, and when she did resurface she told her mother she had been rapped. And wouldn't say the guys name.


They took her to the doctor and she was fucked by someone.


I thought she was going to point her finger at me at first. I would have been so pissed because my momma told me that the girl would say I rapped her. (My mother was negative like that. The shit got on my nerves.)

I didn't talk to her, and eventually I heard her story changed because the doctors said that there were no signs of actual rape to her just being over some dude name AJ's house.

I was so pissed, and confused by her actions. I broke down in tears. The only time I've ever cried about a woman.

Then after a week or two, a new semester started and I got into a different class. Art class. Some girl came and sat at my table with some big titties and a toned swim team body and I got her number.

Made her my new GF took her to prom (she paid for half of everything and because she worked as a lifeguard at a hotel we got a room for next to nothing)

Those two were the only 2 girls I dated during my Highschool year. I really had no clue what I was doing with women. Always too nice and chivalrous. Then in my senior year, I basically got lucky with the first one through the circumstances. The second one I just did out of no where. It was like something came over me that told me to not waste time.

It's crazy because I found out later a ton of women were attracted to me and had I made moves I could have had the best looking women in the school. After learning about women I looked back and some so many missed opportunities to this day I still kick myself over a certain woman.

On girl who ranked top of our class and a karate black belt and a basket ball player (you know that over achiever) asked me to dance during home coming. I danced with her and ran off like a little bitch...GOD!

She met some dude after that and they have been in a relationship ever since. Going on 8 years now.

Anyway, the difference between our situations is that mine wasn't something I base my entire life around. I felt it was her loss and went and got another girl. It was really my fault now that I understand female psychology. The only thing I wish is that I had known what I know back then so I could have gotten that one girl who was into me.

I actually spoke on the phone with the cheating Girlfriend one time. She said she lied to her mom about "AJ". I didn't believe her nor cared what the "real" story was, and I told her I had a new Girlfriend. She seemed jealous. That made me feel great!

You know the crazy part? I can't even remember her name. I think it started with an A.

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This was a summed up version of the story. I dont want to go into details because ive talked about it wayy too many times over the past years. I still feel what she did was wrong but i allowed her to lead me on instead of walking away like i shouldve. Basically it goes into her pretending to be someone she wasnt, and having me just close enough to her so it seemed like she was interested but in reality i was the back up guy and all that.

And I'm not "butt-hurt" over it but i just have that, like hind sight feeling.I dont feel that way now but i like to remember how it felt so i can use that anger as motivation to do it right from now on.

And yes after that i was literally starting off conversation like "hey, you dtf?"