Hey, guys. I am a bouncer at a strip club. I know that it sounds idiotic, but if I have made a mistake while getting to know a woman (a stripper), can I correct it and still have a chance with her? Given, time does heal all and we do not always work at the same club, so I could just wait and approach again, later. But, is there another way? And if not, how long would the suggested time be? I know sayings that say "fortune favors the brave" and "strike while the iron is hot", but not all sayings are universally true. Please, give me some advice.

You're going to need to elaborate on "If I have made a mistake while getting to know a woman"

What mistake?

What are your ages, and what is your current relationship with this stripper? Have you dated and/or slept with her? Does she know you exist? Have you paid for sex? Etc?

Don't be shy... We need more details to help you.

First off, sweet job dude, sounds like alot of fun (if you're a skilled pua)

Im no doctor, but i am diagnosing a mildly severe case of oneitis.

Here's the problem with most guys, they come here asking for help on how to take care of a symptom.

When enstead they need to cure the fucking disease.

What is the disease?

I'll call it - Scarcity. My definition of scarcity = imagine the arizona dessert, dry as a mofo. No hoes.

The only way you're going to get this girl, or any girl(with exceptions of course, but i'm speaking from a seasoned PUA point of view) is to sort out your mindset, work on getting more girls, not just this ONE girl.

A girl has options, specially a hot one, you think they want a guy who wants them sooo much and has no options?

Exactly.

What will happen is, if you follow this advice, you will work on and successfully meet other women, have so much options that when you do interact with this "Girl you like so much" you wont elicit needy behavior and she will sense that you dont care what happens and be attracted to you. But this cannot be faked, you must be "The man"

So ask yourself this question: "Are you the man?"

If not, you got some work to do buddy.

Being in the game for 5+ years i can honestly say anything else you do will lead down a path of suffering and unpleasant emotions.

But thats just advice, *Hodgetwins voice* Do whatever the FUCK you wana do ! :p

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Had a case of the dreaded one-itis myself just recently. Once it happens it's pretty much game over in my opinion. She was chasing me like hell, I was just not interested in her at the time and we eventually dated. Sex was amazing. Date was amazing. I became the one chasing and she lost interest.

It seems the only way to get the girl is to not want the girl. Or at least show her that. I definitely learnt my lesson.

You don't wanna hear it, just like I didn't BUT the only way is to have more options and talk to more girls so you don't develop one-itis again. Really messed my head up!

You could get her now if your mind was right, but the fact that this situation made you emotional enough to make a post about would suggest that you need to be patient and let the emotional wound heal. Time will present you will another opportunity to acquire that which you see, It always does. You just gotta wait for it.

Chill for now.. Another oppurrtunity will present itself soon.

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I am forty-three, she is thirty-three. There have been times when I was at her place of employment and I would casually walk to the stage she was dancing on and tip her a twenty. Afterwards, I would give her a twenty to tip another performer who was a mutual friend. I have heard various people say that tipping a performer was always the wrong thing to do, if you expected to be with her. I was once married to a dancer and during the divorce I lost my children, afterwards, there was a long series of legal endeavors that I had go through, in order to see them again and nobody helped me through it. It was tough. Coincidently, she had lost her children and is going through a divorce. I have helped her a couple of times to meet various appointments and touch bases with lawyers. All of this was done whenever she asked, nothing was expected. Not to mention that there was a time when we were together and we were drinking, on top of other things, I told her to kiss me. It seemed like the right thing to do, it seemed like a "moment", when something like that should happen. She politely refused. Since then, it seems like a distance has grown between us. I know that she is just one and that there are many. AND after have written this, I see the following pieces of advice that were given and I have to agree. Thank you for your time, I just got home from work and the fact that there are many available and willing females in this line of work was made obvious to me tonight. Thank you again and your advice will be followed.